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why ask why - 11/30/2008 7:30:54 PM
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joy2give2u
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My pastor has this habit.......which can be quite challenging.......
If his sermon speaks to you and you feel lead to tell him so be prepared to answer why.
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God spoke powerfully through words spoken during the Sunday service. I know God was saying something....what I may not be clear on......but as I ask myself why, in preparation for sharing with my pastor why the service spoke to me, I learn more, hear more and understand more then I did while listening to the service.
I am glad my pastor always ask why.......so often we receive something from God, know there is more, but don't take the time to ask why. Soon we lose not only what we heard but the opportunity to grow more in the why as well.
Why is it some don't like to be asked why?
What is it about the question why which makes some defensive?
What is so scary about the why?
I am wondering how much we miss out in knowing someone deeper because we don't ask why?
In a relationship how important is it to know the why?
For example if I were dating a gentleman, who seems to love children, yet never wanted any of his own wouldn't I be wise to ask why?
Would I really ever know him if I didn't ask why?
I think often we don't like why because we don't know the answer or maybe we don't want to know the answer.....but is the answer really as important as the journey the question why takes us on?
He may not know why he never wanted children of his own but I know that by asking why, during the discussion following the question, I will get to know his heart and mind more then I would if I had not asked why.
In a relationship do you ask Why? If so why? If not why not?
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RE: why ask why - 11/30/2008 7:52:33 PM
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Why may reveal:
uncomfortable sin
a lack of skill verbalizing thoughts
painful emotions
shame over non-sin foolishness/stupidity
something God meant for that person alone
a comparative insignificance of what was revealed
...and that's why some people don't like being asked why.
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RE: why ask why - 11/30/2008 8:08:38 PM
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In the context of a sermon message, Why Questions provide a wonderful way to grow in our knowledge of the Bible and God's will for our lives.
Asking why is a great way to learn. It's good to ask why.
But not always.
Sometimes it's better to not ask. Discernment and wisdom play important roles in determining when to ask why and when to hold our tongues.
When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.
Whoever restrains his words has knowledge,
and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding.
Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise;
when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.
Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.
Discernment and wisdom.
If we ask why just so we can learn something, we might hurt someone feelings.
It's also prudent for us to understand our boundaries. If we don't know someone that well, it's really not our business to always ask why.
Asking why with the wrong timing can have detrimental effects as well.
It isn't enough just to contemplate why someone might be uncomfortable or defensive being asked Why Questions. It's also worthwhile to consider our motives for asking why.
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RE: why ask why - 11/30/2008 8:39:44 PM
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It isn't enough just to contemplate why someone might be uncomfortable or defensive being asked Why Questions. quote:
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Thanks for Shema. That's so true.
Asking someone why then proceeding to tell them "why you don't" has a lot of implications to the readers.
Often times, people need to be heard, and to be validated. When they open themselves up to you, it takes a lot of vulnerability on their part. My first response to someone who opens up to me is to acknowledge their feelings because their feelings come from a very deep place inside of them. Understanding someone is not the same as understanding something. I might not always understand why someone is going through something, but I'll always understand that as a human being, we all have those deep desires inside of us that we long to share to others who would emphatize and walk with us.
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RE: why ask why - 11/30/2008 9:22:02 PM
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I can be one to analyze my motives so I probably wouldn't have any trouble with the why question but there might be some question out there that I would be, who knows. As prariehiker said, it can take some vulnerability. There is always the chance that the ansnwer to someone's why question might be very personal, hard to express, hard to express without a long discussion, or they don't know the answer to the question of why.
That's great that you and others get a lot ouf ot the question of why. Looking back at my life, it seems like I miss some great things that God wants to say to me/do in me/do through me simply because I have failed to do even small things like ask why.
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RE: why ask why - 11/30/2008 10:37:23 PM
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Why is it some don't like to be asked why?
Because many times it's none of the questioners business until I know them better.
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What is it about the question why which makes some defensive?
See answer above. Also, I may not know why. And I may not care why. If I know what I like (for example) why do I need to know why I like it?
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What is so scary about the why?
nothing
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I am wondering how much we miss out in knowing someone deeper because we don't ask why?
In a relationship how important is it to know the why?
For example if I were dating a gentleman, who seems to love children, yet never wanted any of his own wouldn't I be wise to ask why?
Would I really ever know him if I didn't ask why?
In this example, assuming a woman who didn't want children, I wouldn't need to know why she didn't want children, nor would I need to know her more deeply as she's obviosuly not a fit. Just a ship that passed in the night. I see no value in even asking the "why" question in teh case of someone who won't even be around in a month (or less).
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but is the answer really as important as the journey the question why takes us on?
If you don't want to know the answer why ask the question?
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In a relationship do you ask Why? If so why? If not why not?
Totally depends. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I've found that in a relationship people will usually state their reasons for anything major. (One I hear a lot is "You're a poo-poo head and you smell funny" Maybe I should change deodorant?)
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RE: why ask why - 11/30/2008 10:38:28 PM
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Good post # 3 SR
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RE: why ask why - 11/30/2008 10:47:04 PM
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ORIGINAL: joy2give2u
My pastor has this habit.......which can be quite challenging.......
If his sermon speaks to you and you feel lead to tell him so be prepared to answer why.
for example......
God spoke powerfully through words spoken during the Sunday service. I know God was saying something....what I may not be clear on......but as I ask myself why, in preparation for sharing with my pastor why the service spoke to me, I learn more, hear more and understand more then I did while listening to the service.
I am glad my pastor always ask why.......so often we receive something from God, know there is more, but don't take the time to ask why. Soon we lose not only what we heard but the opportunity to grow more in the why as well.
Why is it some don't like to be asked why?
What is it about the question why which makes some defensive?
What is so scary about the why?
I am wondering how much we miss out in knowing someone deeper because we don't ask why?
In a relationship how important is it to know the why?
For example if I were dating a gentleman, who seems to love children, yet never wanted any of his own wouldn't I be wise to ask why?
Would I really ever know him if I didn't ask why?
I think often we don't like why because we don't know the answer or maybe we don't want to know the answer.....but is the answer really as important as the journey the question why takes us on?
He may not know why he never wanted children of his own but I know that by asking why, during the discussion following the question, I will get to know his heart and mind more then I would if I had not asked why.
In a relationship do you ask Why? If so why? If not why not?
I ask why all the time. I want to know everything.
I am not afraid of the word why. It does not make me uncomfortable at all. I always have an answer, even if it is "I don't know."
Maybe your question about the guy that did not want children of his own was a hypothetical, but I wondered why you would date a guy if he did not want children. I might ask him why he did not, out of utter curiosity, but his answer would not matter. I have three children so the relationship would not work. I love children.....the more the merrier! 
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 8:38:19 AM
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Why is it some don't like to be asked why?
I like being ask why. I like being asked a lot of questions. But before I answer, I want to know that the person asking is really going to listen to what's going on inside of me. I would like to be heard and not be studied. I don't like to be compared my answer to her answer. I only answer questions from people who I feel safe with.
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What is it about the question why which makes some defensive? It's never the question, but the person asking the question
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What is so scary about the why?
Nothing scary about it. But if I answer, I'd like to make sure that the person askign the question doesn't respond to my question in a manner that suggest that my answer is wrong because he/she has never experience what I'm going through.
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I am wondering how much we miss out in knowing someone deeper because we don't ask why?
To get deeper with someone, we have to make them feel safe with us, because it's our lives we're opening up to them.
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In a relationship how important is it to know the why?
Very important. But make sure that you make the person feel safe and you are a safe person to open up to.
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 8:48:01 AM
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Why is it some don't like to be asked why?
Why am I asking why? Am I truly interested in knowing, or is it just so I can show the person how wrong her answers are? Will I be able to empathize with this person? Do I really need to know why before I can show her that I care?
What is it about the question why which makes some defensive?
How do I ask a person without making them feel defensive? In what manner do I ask and respond to the person that puts them in a defensive position?
What is so scary about the why?
Is this person scared of answering the question or is this person not safe to open up to me Do I make him feel that there is a right or wrong answer?
I am wondering how much we miss out in knowing someone deeper because we don't ask why?
Do I care enough that's why I'm asking?
In a relationship how important is it to know the why?
It's important to know everything in the person I'm relating to, but have I made them feel safe enough to allow them into my life?
For example if I were dating a gentleman, who seems to love children, yet never wanted any of his own wouldn't I be wise to ask why?
Of course. Would I reject his answer though? Would I try to convince him that he should have children? Can I just let him tell me in his time why or why not?
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 9:44:38 AM
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One of the big no noes in counseling is to never ask why because it puts the patient on the defensive, thereby closing the dialogue. This is especially true when talking to someone who is not in an established a safe relationship with you yet. If you wish to open up the dialogue and learn more about them, do not ask "why."
There are other ways to keep the dialogue going as you explore what needs to be explored to help the patient gain insight into their own actions. For instance, instead of asking "why do you place your keys on the counter whenever you come home?" ... you would ask/say, "I notice you always place your keys in the same spot whenever you come home. That is very clever. Do you remember when you started doing that? What were the circumstances that lead to such a clever act?" You will notice the first way, with the why question, puts the listener on the defensive, even though the motives of the speaker stemmed out of curiosity. The second way made it safe for the listener, and still gave the information the speaker needed to satisfy their curiosity.
Once you have established a relationship with that person and they feel safe, why is only used when absolutely necessary.
The example of the Pastor telling his congregation to be prepared to answer the why of his sermons is safe because it is a rhetorical question aimed at encouraging the flock to seek insight on their own. The question is not part of an ongoing dialogue and simply encourages those in the congregation to be reflective, which is the Pastor's job. 
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I am wondering how much we miss out in knowing someone deeper because we don't ask why?
To be honest, a why question does not typically bring people closer ... it closes off the dialogue bringing an end to that particular discussion. I have seen it experientially. There is also quite a bit of research to back it up.
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For example if I were dating a gentleman, who seems to love children, yet never wanted any of his own wouldn't I be wise to ask why?
Would I really ever know him if I didn't ask why?
If you wish for him to skidaddle you can ask why. If you wish to gain insight you might say/ask, "My love for children has made me want to have them more. It is so interesting that you love kids yet came to a different conclusion than I did in my own life. If you feel comfortable, would you mind telling me about the time you knew for the first time you did not want to have your own children?" (I am assuming y'all are REAL close before you have begun this particular dialogue. )
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 10:21:49 AM
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When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent. Interesting thoughts Shemaroman........I would see things opposite then you in that to me Why is not many words......it is one word actually............
It seems to me more people would prefer to give advice, share lots of words, then actually ask a question which would require them to listen instead of talk.
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It isn't enough just to contemplate why someone might be uncomfortable or defensive being asked Why Questions. It's also worthwhile to consider our motives for asking why. Motive would depend on how the person asking views why questions.........as some have stated, myself included, being asked why is always a positive thing since it always lead to a deeper understanding and it shows a person cares enough to want to know you better.
People motives can be seen, when they ask why, in how they in turn respond to a why question themselves........if why questions make them uncomfortable, they would ask them to make another uncomfortable............if they see why questions as someone wanting to listen then asking why would in turn mean they want to listen to the person with whom they have asked why.
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If we ask why just so we can learn something, we might hurt someone feelings. As would making an assumption based on our own thoughts.
Asking why in real life and asking why on the computer are very different...........on the computer asking why is important to make sure we are not reading words based on our own thoughts.
Unless we have information behind the scene every thing we read is based on our mood, thought, and mindset at the time of reading........not that of the person writing.........we can make an assumption to what they mean behind their words and stop there, which takes little effort, or we can ask them why they are feeling or thinking a given way, and take the time to understand the words they wrote through their own mindset and not our own..........
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I ask why all the time. I want to know everything. LOL funny because I don't really ask why just because I want to know things.........for example I would not ask someone why did you chose to wear a blue shirt today.........but I do ask why when someone makes a statement concerning how they are feeling or what they are thinking.........I also ask why when it comes to discussions..........to me a discussion is not about people stating their opinions/thoughts but about challenge myself and hopefully others to wonder what do I really think of this or that.
As I am reading the post and replying a verse in the bible keeps coming to mind..........
I Peter 3:15,16
But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: 16 Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.
Be ready to always give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you...........
As Christ followers we can't chose to speak of hope and when not too......everything we say, even when things are not going well, still speaks of our relationship with the Lord............
I think that is why the why question doesn't bother me..........because ever time I stop to ask why of myself..........in the why I find truth, hope, love, and the Lord's voice.........
Only if we are willing to ask ourselves why we feel or think something do we find that in our answers we speak hope.............
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Maybe your question about the guy that did not want children of his own was a hypothetical, but I wondered why you would date a guy if he did not want children. Actually no it is not hypothetical..........since I am getting to the age where having children is not likely unless I marry a man with children I probably will not have any.
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 11:35:34 AM
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The example of the Pastor telling his congregation to be prepared to answer the why of his sermons is safe because it is a derogatory question aimed at encouraging the flock to seek insight on their own. The question is not part of an ongoing dialogue and simply encourages those in the congregation to be reflective, which is the Pastor's job.
Did you mean "rhetorical"?
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 12:13:12 PM
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The example of the Pastor telling his congregation to be prepared to answer the why of his sermons is safe because it is a derogatory question aimed at encouraging the flock to seek insight on their own. The question is not part of an ongoing dialogue and simply encourages those in the congregation to be reflective, which is the Pastor's job. Actually you are incorrect...........he does not ask you why from the podium to encourage us to be reflective on what we heard ......reflection on what we heard is biblical..........He ask why as part of a dialog engaged in when you share with him what the sermon spoke to you.........in the reflection we learn..........as well in the pursuing discussion of why...........
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To be honest, a why question does not typically bring people closer ... it closes off the dialogue bringing an end to that particular discussion. I have seen it experiential. There is also quite a bit of research to back it up. I would be interested in seeing your research since my experiences have lead to a different conclusion.
I find, in real life, most people, even strangers, are surprised when someone takes the time to ask them "why" questions.......most people enjoy talking about themselves and are often more then happy to pause, to wonder why, if another is willing to pause with them.
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This morning at the gas station.........I was discussing the beautiful snow with the person pumping gas next to me.........they commented that snow always makes them feel happy.........I asked why.......and they shared how it reminded them of when they were a child and snow days meant spending the day with their grandmother and grandfather.....
Asking why and listening allowed them to explore why snow makes them feel happy and the answer brought even more happiness to them..........
The why questions not only give them an opportunity to expand on the happiness snow brings to them but also allowed me to get to know something more about them.......both of us were giving smile moments through the why question.
As far as counseling......most people do not go to counseling unless they are already asking themselves why..........the counselor only needs to encourage the why questions the client is already asking............
If I had never been asked why I got angry and filled with rage whenever my mother prayed I would never have gotten to the point where I could forgive her and ask for her forgiveness.........I think most counselors will tell you healing only comes when the why questions have been answered even if he/she never asked why.
Maybe the bigger different between those who embrace why questions and those who do not like them is dependent more on whether a person is a reflective type person or not........
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 12:58:51 PM
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He ask why as part of a dialog engaged in when you share with him what the sermon spoke to you.........in the reflection we learn..........as well in the pursuing discussion of why...........
So you are saying he expects everyone in the congregation to come to him after the sermon to answer the question? You must have a very small group.
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But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: 16 Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.
Be ready to always give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you...........
Being ready to give an answer is much different than asking the question.
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I would be interested in seeing your research since my experiences have lead to a different conclusion.
Simply go to any textbook on therapeutic counseling and read about therapeutic communication.
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 1:14:01 PM
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So you are saying he expects everyone in the congregation to come to him after the sermon to answer the question? You must have a very small group. No he expects everyone to spend time chewing over what God is sharing with them..........but if you do go to him planning on sharing God spoke to you then be prepared to have a discussion as to why what was said spoke to you......also be prepared to be prepared to be asked more why questions through out the discussion...........
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Being ready to give an answer is much different than asking the question. True and those who enjoyed questions often are those who ask them and those who do not like questions usually don't ask them.
I love questions therefore I do not feel threatened or offended when ones are asked of me..........
A question, in my way of seeing, is not a challenge on what I said but a request for me to share more.
If a statement does not generate a question it means I have not taken the time to consider what another has said or written.........
A question is geared towards what another has to say and not so much what the question asker has to say............
Would you agree?
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 1:28:05 PM
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Because many times it's none of the questioners business until I know them better.
agreed. i think the internet changes the dynamic some though. the way i see it, it seems if someone makes a public post, asking a followup question is fair game ... i mean if something was truly private, why post about it or hint about it ... how many times has someone posted they are sad here but didn't go into details, and countless others have asked why in order to understand the poster more to pray for them or help them feel better ...
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 1:31:43 PM
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Simply go to any textbook on therapeutic counseling and read about therapeutic communication Interesting I took your advice.........but don't see your interpretation........probably because we are reading the words through different mindsets........looking for confirmation from different angles...........
Failure to probe and assumed understanding result in poor communicationA why question doesn't have to use the word why but the result is a why answer..........why questions always probe deeper..........
I found example after example of questions which, though they may not use the actual word why, ask why.
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"Questions should be to achieve relevance and depth."
Question........How come you stopped taking your medication?
Is there a difference between why did you stop taking your medication and how come you stopped taking your medication?
Interesting enough a few sites do recommend not asking how questions..........which I can understand.......a how question is much different then a why question.
Though I think, especially on threads, people would much rather answer how questions then why. Do you think so?
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 2:19:54 PM
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Interesting I took your advice.........but don't see your interpretation........probably because we are reading the words through different mindsets........looking for confirmation from different angles.........
You are not looking in the correct section ... it is very clear cut.
Every book used at the collegiate level teaching therapeutic communication is very definitive in the use of the question why. It is a block ... look here page 63 or here, number four on the communication blocks on page 6 ... Just google blocks to constructive communication and you will find it. The NECLEX is the standardized test for RNs. part of the testing is therapeutic communication. They teach every potential nurse (and therapist, I have asked some of my friends who are licensed therapist and their standardized test does the tests the same concepts and require the same answer) ... that if there is a question on therapeutic communication stating "which question will block communication?" (Though the actual questions are not that easy ... I wish!) ... if you have a selection with a why question ... that will be the correct answer.
A number of people have expressed why this is true on this very thread. It causes a defensive reaction in most individuals. Is there a way to ask why? Of course ... but it requires a definite tone of voice along with the appropriate body language ... something that is very difficult to do on a written format. You may have noticed the defensive stance some will take when asked why on the forums ... it is a very human and natural reaction, and it would be wise to be mindful of that fact when communicating with others.
Unfortunately human beings are mush more complex as they get older. With age comes baggage ... and with that baggage comes the potential to become defensive. A question that asks why will accelerate that defensive response.
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 2:41:50 PM
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You are not looking in the correct section ... it is very clear cut. Theory is never clear cut......thanks for the link......
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question on the other hand, is open-ended by nature. To respond to a divergent question, a
student must be able to recall some information from memory, but must apply that knowledge
and other knowledge to explain, extrapolate or further analyze a topic, situation or problem.
Divergent questions are broader in nature, can have multiple answers, and require then a higher
level of thinking on behalf of the student.
An interesting discussion on why questions is shared here
Interesting the questions Jesus asked were almost always divergent or why questions..........
I wonder why?
Interesting to note according to Mount Vernon Nazarene University's chaplain.....
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Our mission or purpose answers the why questions of life. Why are we here? Why do we exist? I assume it’s a question that’s been asked for thousands of years. It’s a question, which others much more educated than I have asked many times before and yet it’s a question that continually seems to come up.
Maybe that is why Jesus asked why questions.......because he was more interested in our exploring the questions of life.
I am curious if a christian counselor manual, which may not use the same threory as a secular textbook, might propose a different view of asking qusetions. I wonder if Grace and Mercy knows........
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RE: why ask why - 12/1/2008 2:56:06 PM
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Interesting the questions Jesus asked were almost always divergent or why questions..........
I wonder why?
It's something He wants us to think about ... which is very different from communicating.
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Our mission or purpose answers the why questions of life. Why are we here? Why do we exist? I assume it’s a question that’s been asked for thousands of years. It’s a question, which others much more educated than I have asked many times before and yet it’s a question that continually seems to come up.
That is a valid mission. But it has nothing to do with communication.
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