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If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/9/2009 9:57:24 PM
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stampinlady
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would you still try, why or why not? Are their certain circumstances when you shouldn't get pregnant and would you risk it or not? Lapidoth posted a thread in Current about the littlest mom having her 3rd baby and it made me think about the risks and whether not it's right to take those risks. I have had two normal pregnancies which resulted in 2 healthy babies so I have no clue as what it would be like to be told you can't/ shouldn't have children.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/9/2009 10:12:17 PM
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Due to a severe medical condition, I've been told that I could carry a pregnancy to full-term, but the odds aren't good and there is a chance my own health would be in danger. Because of that and because I'm pushing 40, I've opted not to try. I've had my hand in helping to raise lots of babies, so I don't feel that I'm particularly missing anything. My husband and I do talk about adopting older children and/or sibling groups that are not the most "wanted" children. But we haven't felt led yet to pursue adoption.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/9/2009 10:14:40 PM
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Being a man, I'm pretty sure most doctors would suggest I not try and have kids.
But seriously, if a doctor said my wife would be in serious danger if she tried to have kids, I would probably say that we shouldn't try. Children are a blessing, but they're not worth risking one's life over - especially since it would mean bringing the child into the world without a mother.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/9/2009 10:17:42 PM
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And that's pretty much what my husband said.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/9/2009 10:18:42 PM
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I agree with Fibbles, and I think under those circumstances, it is a great idea to consider adoption. There are so many children out there that desperately need a good home and lots of love.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/9/2009 10:19:06 PM
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I think it's not a "right" or "wrong" issue; it's up to the female or the couple. I think I'd just have to know what the risk is, and then decide.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/9/2009 10:19:56 PM
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Personally I can't imagine putting my wife in that position - even if she were in favor.
I couldn't do it.
Depends on the risk of course - minor risks we can deal with. Life itself is risky. If it's really a material possibility then no, I couldn't do that.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/9/2009 10:39:35 PM
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I've been told that there is a good chance that the pregnancy I am currently...experiencing? will contribute to my kidney damage and that if it does then we should not have more children or I will risking kidney failure and the possible need for a transplant. If I do sustain more kidney damage then DH and I will certainly not even entertain the idea of more children.
BUT... I will also not do anything permanent as far as sterilization. If, for some reason, I were to remarry I might want the chance for one more child. But of course, it would depend entirely on how much body is functioning. There is a point, and a line, that I will not cross. So far I haven't reached that line.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 2:18:18 AM
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If we were told that I shouldn't have kids, I don't think we would try to get pregnant. I'm don't think my husband wouldn't let us try. We would go the adoption route.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 3:49:33 AM
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I'm surprised solo did not point this out, but when I asked my mother about a small woman having children when I was younger. She told me it is not the size of the woman, but the size of the cervex.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 7:28:02 AM
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We would not have biological children if we were told that a pregnancy would put my life in significant danger.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 7:52:45 AM
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It would depend on what the health risks were, but no I would mostly likely not actively "try" to conceive if it would put my life in danger, especially now, the child I already have needs a mother more then I need to have other children. That said I would not opt for artificial birth control.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 7:59:48 AM
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I'd get a second opinion.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 9:17:01 AM
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I'd get a second opinion.
I agree with the second opinion, and then adoption is a wonderful thing.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 8:04:03 PM
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Thanks for sharing your stories.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 8:20:55 PM
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Not sure if the OP encompasses this scenario or not...
I wasn't told that I shouldn't have children. But, after the birth of my first child and finding out that I'm the carrier of a genetic syndrome with only a 25% chance of having children without the syndrome itself or being a carrier of the syndrome, I chose sterilization. I couldn't bear the thought of creating the same set of circumstances that I was in for a child of mine by passing along the gene that would make them a carrier as well. Looking back, I know that it would very seriously have risked my mental health to have any more children with the syndrome dying in infancy.
So I have made that decision.
And I have 2 amazing children by adoption. 
I would go for it anyways. In all likelihood if the Lord wills me to marry I'll be quiverful since for health reasons I can't use artificial BC. It's funny you mentioned "Steel Magnolias." That's my favorite movie and like the 200th time we were watching it...I started laughing during that scene and told my mom "Ya know what? If I ever get pregnant you can't say anything to me after the stunt you pulled getting pregnant with ME." Yep. My brother was over 10 and a half when I was born. My mom nearly died the year before she got pregnant with me BY CHOICE. It did upset my grandmother and yes there was a moment they weren't sure they could save us both but we're still here. I don't judge anyone that chooses to not take the risk. I perfectly understand. But for me I'd take the chance and hope for the best.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 9:02:23 PM
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We'd certainly get 2nd (and 3rd and 4th) opinions
Isn't that a given? I assume women would do this naturally, but then again ...
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 9:04:27 PM
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We'd certainly get 2nd (and 3rd and 4th) opinions
Isn't that a given? I assume women would do this naturally, but then again ...
That's kinda what I thought the question was... What would you do once you were sure?
Maggie, people may disagree with you, but I'm not sure why you think people would turn up their nose at you.
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RE: If your Dr. told you you shouldn't have kids .... - 11/10/2009 9:28:47 PM
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Sideways
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Oh, sorry, I haven't read that other thread.
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