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ORIGINAL: dksitecivil
I was told recently that I will meet that special girl when I am not looking to meet anyone. Huh ... what the heck does that mean? I pray that God is preparing my future soul-mate for me and that He is preparing me for her. So, do I just hang out at church and "not look for anyone"?

I just read that recently as well in a book written by Myles Munroe. But just this weekend I was in a conversation with a few people and one guy mentioned that he wanted to get married and another person asked him if he was "doing anything to make that happen?"

Go figure! Do you just wait for God to put someone in your path or do you make an effort to meet people?

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I'm kinda shy until I get to know you. I was told recently that I will meet that special girl when I am not looking to meet anyone. Huh ... what the heck does that mean?

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ORIGINAL: GraceyGirl

Where will you find a girl like ME?

You might find me downtown on a Saturday with my camera in hand, and a brown paper bag full of sandwiches and fruit. I'll be the one photographing the homeless, feeding them, and listening to their stories.

You might find me at the mission center on a Thursday night, sorting underwear and used clothing for the next shipment to Ghana - which is where I've perpetually left a piece of my heart.

Or maybe you'll find me in Starbucks, curled up in a chair with a book that you happen to be reading too. Say hi. I don't bite.

If you look, you'll see me in church, but probably not center stage. I'll be the one wiping little noses, holding hands and singing kids songs with little people. Or you might see on one of those days when the toilet overflows and I roll up my jeans and push the mop bucket down the hall to clean it up before anyone steps in it.

I'll be in the park, sitting in the grass with a contented smile on my face b/c my Papa has seen fit to love me through the warmth of sunshine.

I'm the girl whose next in line, smiling at the little boy who is $1.65 short for the gallon of milk and carton of eggs he's buying for his grandmother. I'm the girl who smiles at the clerk and puts her card down to cover it. Go ahead, smile at me and say, "hi."

You'll find me when you decide to look for me - b/c I'm the girl, I'm the woman whose been praying for you and asking Papa to send you along.

You'll find me when you're ready.

(These were the things I was doing when my DH "found" me.)

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ORIGINAL: GraceyGirl

Where will you find a girl like ME?

You might find me downtown on a Saturday with my camera in hand, and a brown paper bag full of sandwiches and fruit. I'll be the one photographing the homeless, feeding them, and listening to their stories.

You might find me at the mission center on a Thursday night, sorting underwear and used clothing for the next shipment to Ghana - which is where I've perpetually left a piece of my heart.

Or maybe you'll find me in Starbucks, curled up in a chair with a book that you happen to be reading too. Say hi. I don't bite.

If you look, you'll see me in church, but probably not center stage. I'll be the one wiping little noses, holding hands and singing kids songs with little people. Or you might see on one of those days when the toilet overflows and I roll up my jeans and push the mop bucket down the hall to clean it up before anyone steps in it.

I'll be in the park, sitting in the grass with a contented smile on my face b/c my Papa has seen fit to love me through the warmth of sunshine.

I'm the girl whose next in line, smiling at the little boy who is $1.65 short for the gallon of milk and carton of eggs he's buying for his grandmother. I'm the girl who smiles at the clerk and puts her card down to cover it. Go ahead, smile at me and say, "hi."

You'll find me when you decide to look for me - b/c I'm the girl, I'm the woman whose been praying for you and asking Papa to send you along.

You'll find me when you're ready.

(These were the things I was doing when my DH "found" me.)

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ORIGINAL: Grace-N-Mercy

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ORIGINAL: GraceyGirl

Where will you find a girl like ME?

You might find me downtown on a Saturday with my camera in hand, and a brown paper bag full of sandwiches and fruit. I'll be the one photographing the homeless, feeding them, and listening to their stories.

You might find me at the mission center on a Thursday night, sorting underwear and used clothing for the next shipment to Ghana - which is where I've perpetually left a piece of my heart.

Or maybe you'll find me in Starbucks, curled up in a chair with a book that you happen to be reading too. Say hi. I don't bite.

If you look, you'll see me in church, but probably not center stage. I'll be the one wiping little noses, holding hands and singing kids songs with little people. Or you might see on one of those days when the toilet overflows and I roll up my jeans and push the mop bucket down the hall to clean it up before anyone steps in it.

I'll be in the park, sitting in the grass with a contented smile on my face b/c my Papa has seen fit to love me through the warmth of sunshine.

I'm the girl whose next in line, smiling at the little boy who is $1.65 short for the gallon of milk and carton of eggs he's buying for his grandmother. I'm the girl who smiles at the clerk and puts her card down to cover it. Go ahead, smile at me and say, "hi."

You'll find me when you decide to look for me - b/c I'm the girl, I'm the woman whose been praying for you and asking Papa to send you along.

You'll find me when you're ready.

(These were the things I was doing when my DH "found" me.)

That IS awesome!! I might just steal/modify a few lines sometime.

As for me, you might find me in my little hometown at the cafe, sitting by the window with my laptop. Or you'll find me walking around the softball fields, getting my daily laps in while walking with a friend. Or you might find me by the lake, sitting under the canopy or on the pier feeding the fish and watching the birds.

You'll find me at church... I'm an instrumentalist, so you have to catch me in Sunday School or after church where I linger talking to friends. I love to talk to new friends.

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ORIGINAL: dksitecivil

Finally, Now I am getting to the answer to my question! Perfect, PERFECT! Thank you!!!
Please keep going! I am seeing a whole new world where she is right in front of me and maybe has been the entire time. I just never noticed, because I was looking too hard. More?

LOL!

A couple of days ago, I had posted in this thread about some of the places I had gone during that day (and I had the thought that I would continue for a few days posting some of the places I had been on any particular day) . . . but I deleted it about 5 minutes after I posted it.


But to answer your question, yes, she may be right in front of you!
She usually is.

Please, however, read my most recent post HERE, in the Schrödinger thread - simply as a guide on what not to do.




Years and years (and even more years) ago, I determined that I wanted to meet a man in my everyday life while doing my everyday things; i.e., I didn't want to meet him via a dating service or blind dates; both of which feels incredibly contrived to me.

Many years later, I met my future husband at a coffee shop. I was simply going about my business as I did every day; and we met. It wasn't contrived; it just simply was.

If you want to read more about that, click HERE - "Meeting CS"
And if you're really interested . . . there's 3 more posts beyond that; all of them having to do with the CS and the beginning of our relationship ("The Beginning of The Beginning", "Our First Date" and "CS?").




I think people can tend to box themselves in when looking for something (regardless of what that "something" is) . . . and then soon all they can see is what's inside the box. Meanwhile, the world is happening outside of that box.

Hearts can meet and meld anywhere. And, at anytime.

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Finally, Now I am getting to the answer to my question! Perfect, PERFECT! Thank you!!!
Please keep going! I am seeing a whole new world where she is right in front of me and maybe has been the entire time. I just never noticed, because I was looking too hard. More?

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ORIGINAL: dksitecivil

I truly enjoyed reading your past posts, the ones you added links to. You seem like such a wonderful women, a real true lady. Thank you so much for your past posts and your responses to mine. I do wish you hadn't deleted what you had posted here though as I am sure it was also a great read and information.

May God bless you and keep you,
David

David, thank you so much for such a sweet and kind encouragement! I also appreciate your reading the various posts that I linked.




Yesterday, you would have found a business gal like me hanging out at one of my favorite food places for about 4 hours. LOL That sounds funny just in and of itself.

I live alone in a small studio. Sometimes, when I'm doing computer work for extended periods of time, it can be too much alone and too much small. While many times, I muse that I was born a generation or two too late (or even a century too late), two of the things I absolutely love about living in the 21st Century are laptops and public places that offer free wifi & comfy seating. I can go to one of these establishments, surround myself with "the presence of people" and become engrossed with my computer work. It's proven to be far more productive for me than doing the same computer work at home.

Depending on what type of computer work I'm doing during any given "session", I may or may not want to periodically chat with people. Yesterday was one of those "in-between" days. While I did have some great conversations with friends who came into the store, I probably would not have been as receptive to an unknown man wanting to engage me in conversation. But that's not a set-in-stone, clear-across-the-board kind of thing.

Sometimes I've had some nice, brief conversations in similar instances with men whom I didn't know. The man in each individual situation would need to have the ability to discern whether or not it would be a good time to chat with me . . . by being able to read body language, how I set up my surroundings and how I respond when he says hello.



After my computer session, you could have found an art-lover like me in one of my favorite eclectic art / gift shops selecting some birthday cards for a couple of friends of mine. The vast majority of time, it's always "safe" to approach me in such a setting; depending, of course, on the man being a decent person. Art encourages me, it inspires me and it completely enamors me. Depending on the specific venue, the reason for my being there and perhaps a couple of other factors, I am usually quite receptive to all humans when I'm amidst art.




Yesterday wouldn't have been a good time to call me on the phone, though . . . which presumes more than just "meeting" a non-phone being such as myself; it's taking the "meeting" a bit further into at least casual acquaintances. As a bit of a rabbit trail . . . truth-be-known, I'm really not much of a phone talker, anyway. Phones are great tools for making appointments and for quick questions (and for the periodic catching up with long-distance friends); but that's about as far as it goes with me regarding my appreciation of Alexander's greatest gift to us.

If it's not during my working hours, I have no qualms about not answering my phone if I don't want to answer it (regardless of why I don't want to). Sometimes, even during my working hours, I don't always answer my phone; if I'm with a client or in a business meeting, I never (99.9999%) answer my phone (even if it's another client calling); the client in front of me is paying me for my time and attention, not for me to talk on the phone with someone else. I usually don't answer my phone when I'm with friends neither; there are several factors to consider in such a case. But that could be a whole 'nuther topic. LOL

But yesterday, while not a working day for me, was, in fact, a day where I had to get a lot of stuff done. I simply didn't want to talk on the phone yesterday while I was in that mode, so I let all my calls go into voice mail.




So . . . the above is where you would have found a person of such determined concentration and relaxing art appreciation such as myself yesterday.

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What's this about Baby Boomers?

You know, those of us born between 1946 and 1964.

As to the OP, the thing that caught my eye with my husband (whom I met at church) was his ability to make one feel comfortable and his confidence. He really liked who he was and enjoyed life despite having been married to Attila the Huness - cheater extrodinaire. There was an authenticness about him, a real sincerity about him that really got my attention.

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I don't have a lot to add...If you were looking for a woman/lady/girl like me, you would need to look in a few places not mentioned...I don't sit in coffee houses (I HATE coffee--the smell gives me headaches), I love books but do my reading at home.

You might find me at a horse show or trail ride. I have traveled as far as Baker, FL (4 hours from my home) so my son could ride in a show there...I will be showing once my mare has had her foal and I can start riding and training her. You might find me at the feed store or Walmart...more likely the feed store though, I spend more time there. You might find me at a ball field. I used to play, now I'm either cheering for my son or helping as a line coach for his games. You might find me at church...I'm sitting in the back with my yarn and crochet hook making something. Often I sneak into church a little late because I had to leave work to go and I'm heading back after...or I had to pick up my son and we were running late. You'll know its me because I'm the one with the kid (wearing a suit and tie--his choice) that is running 100 miles an hour all the time. But most of the time, if I'm not at work, I'll be home working with horses, maintaining the property, building and/or repairing fences and buildings, homeschooling my son, and all the other things that need to be done.

I'd like to find a partner, but cannot justify spending time hanging out somewhere hoping someone will find me....

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ORIGINAL: dksitecivil

Ok, I'm just going to throw this out there. I'm told that I am a "great guy, nice guy, good looking guy, caring and compassionate guy". I'll at least agree with the caring and compassionate part, lol.
I do know I am on fire for my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I'm very active in my church which has about 7000 attendees total between all services. That being said, where does a guy meet a girl/women also on fire for the Lord who is also all of the above? I'm kinda shy until I get to know you. I was told recently that I will meet that special girl when I am not looking to meet anyone. Huh ... what the heck does that mean? I pray that God is preparing my future soul-mate for me and that He is preparing me for her. So, do I just hang out at church and "not look for anyone"? I just read what I wrote and wondering how pathetic I am, but I am actually serious. lol