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RE: To those who are married. - 10/22/2009 1:08:18 PM
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RHardin15
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Yes, another question or two from a bachelor.
1. Did you ever, as a single person, wonder that God's will for you was that you did not marry?
2. Did you ever, as a single person, conclude that the person whom God had chosen for you was not somebody from your church?
3. Did you ever think you were destined never to marry?
1. Yes, I think everyone wonders that
2. Yes, and I married someone outside my church.
3. Yes, and I think everyone thinks that at times.
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RE: To those who are married. - 10/24/2009 7:14:59 AM
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Anon101
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1. Did you ever, as a single person, wonder that God's will for you was that you did not marry?
2. Did you ever, as a single person, conclude that the person whom God had chosen for you was not somebody from your church?
3. Did you ever think you were destined never to marry?
1. No, I knew that God did not give me the gift he gave Paul the apostle. Marriage is usually God's will for man was not created to be alone. If God wants you to be celibate, he will give you the grace to live that life. I did however wonder if I would ever get married. I new I had a lot of personal issues to work out, though.
2. My church had/has no singles group so I didn't think I'd find my spouse within my church. Christians can be found in other places, too though. Single Christians have to shop, work, and function in this world just like unbelievers. You may find your future wife in the frozen food section at the grocery store. Also, just because a person is in church doesn't make them a true follower of Christ. I was astonished when I drifted away from God on how many people from my old church I saw in bars and when I spoke with them I found out they still attended church every Sunday. Just because someone goes to McDonald's it doesn't make them a french fry.  Yes, the odds are better that you will find a true christian at church, but that doesn't mean they are meant to be your spouse. None of my Christian friends found their spouses at their church. Maybe you'll like your future wife's church even better than the one you are attending now.
3. I never thought I was destined to never marry. I knew that God had a destiny for me but that didn't necessarily mean I'd get there. If we follow the leading of the Holy Spirit and follow the direction of the Lord, he will lead us to His destiny for us. Unfortunately so many of us follow our heads and our own thinking. That is why the divorce rate in the church is 50%. We either make bad choices which cause us to miss the things/people God has for us or we marry OUR choice instead of God's choice for us. Both roads lead to unhappiness.
Sounds like you are seeking wisdom. James 1:5 says "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. " Continually ask God for wisdom. Also ask Him for discernment. Counterfeits do come along. Satan knows you are looking for someone too and so many people get into wrong relationships because Satan knows we have a natural, God-given desire for companionship and love. That is why Holy Spirit discernment is so important.
God bless and I pray you find the woman God has destined to be your wife.
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RE: To those who are married. - 10/28/2009 3:29:41 PM
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KaptZ
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1)Don't know. Figured the 'Old Man' would be with me either way.
2)Possible. Figured the 'Old Man' would tell me she was a good person who truly loved me and that was what really mattered.
3)See answer (1).
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RE: To those who are married. - 11/2/2009 3:39:06 AM
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michele_erin
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deermousie: Please don't take this wrong: God's going to do what He's going to do, and He doesn't need anyone's help or direction. We do what we do and He does what He does, and He's in charge of bringing people together, not us. We serve a sovereign God! So we can depend on Him and He'll bring the woman from whereever He wants to. Adam was surprised, too.
If you met God's woman for you tomorrow, what would you have wished you'd done in preparation for marriage? Go do it now.
God bless you, Rich, and bring you a wonderful wife in His perfect time! Meanwhile, go get ready.
This was great! And Rich, hang in there. If it is a desire of your heart to marry -- God put it there. Just pray for her, that God's will be done, and don't put your expectations as to the how, what she'll look like, etc. God's ways are not our ways. May the Lord bless you and keep you!! Jer. 29:11 (please re-read it) 
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RE: To those who are married. - 11/3/2009 10:29:02 AM
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starvin.artist.gurl
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1. Did you ever, as a single person, wonder that God's will for you was that you did not marry?
No, I always knew I would get married, and I always wanted to get married young. If you put God first, He'll give you the desires of your heart. I married the love of my life when I was 20. (I'm 24 now.)
2. Did you ever, as a single person, conclude that the person whom God had chosen for you was not somebody from your church?
I knew there was no one at my church I could ever marry. In fact, my husband isn't even from the same side of the country as me.
3. Did you ever think you were destined never to marry?
No, that thought never crossed my mind.
It's not easy to find a good spouse. It takes a lot of prayer and wisdom. Kudos for being picky. You should be. But also, don't put God in a box. You might meet your spouse in the least expected way.
And there are some women who really do just want a man with money. Most girls who say that, don't really mean it. But I do know a couple of really nice girls who are serious about that.
The average girl, despite what she says, really only wants a guy who knows how to show her that she means the world to him. It's really that simple. My husband and I don't make a lot of money... like seriously don't make much money, lol... but we love God, and we love each other, and we're happy.
My challenge to you would be if you want to get married, don't just wait for it to happen. Pray hard and go out there and look around. You don't have to marry someone from your congregation. Just make sure she loves Jesus. I wouldn't write off using a dating service either. I've seen a lot of really happy couples who came together through one of those.
Don't forget Jacob in the Bible.. he worked 14 years of hard labor for his father in law before he could marry the girl he wanted. He had to get up and do something. And his case, yes, it took time. But he got her in the end.
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RE: To those who are married. - 11/4/2009 7:09:48 PM
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Narcil
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1. Paul clearly says in 1 Cor 7 that it is better for some not to marry, as they could devote their attention more wholly to the of Kingdom of God. That said, unless God specifically and clearly tells you that you're not supposed to marry, then why bother asking the question? Marriage is allowed for the christian, and if you meet someone that you're allowed to marry (opposite sex, unmarried, fellow christian) and you want to, then why not?
2. It's a mistake to believe that God has picked a specific person for you to marry that you need to discover. God provides pretty clear guidelines in the Bible about acceptable mates for Christians in His perspective (see above), and as long as you restrict yourself to those criteria, do what you want. Unless, of course, God has taken the time to clearly and directly tell you that you must marry a specific person (and generally God is not in the habit of doing this sort of thing - not that it couldn't happen).
3. No.
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