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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/10/2009 4:01:01 PM
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magdaleine
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So why not make a deal with him that you will have the money you've spent on cigarettes and pop, even when you no longer use them, and then start buying things for yourself! Or at least doing nice things for yourself. I know, easier said than done. I used to have no access to money in our marriage. It's a "great" way for the husband to control his wife. I don't like it and think it's very wrong.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/10/2009 5:05:02 PM
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Now for some HUMOR.
Said in court?
These are things people actually said in court, word for word, taken down and now published by court reporters. How did they keep from laughing while these were all taking place?
LOL Ginny, I liked this one the best:
Q: Trooper, when you stopped the defendant, were your red and blue lights flashing?
A: Yes.
Q: Did the defendant say anything when she got ou! t of her car?
A: Yes, sir.
Q: What did she say?
A: What disco am I at?
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/11/2009 12:11:23 AM
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Ginny, I know that I groaned at the court jokes you put up, but it doesn't mean that I didn't like them. Sorry if you got the impression that I don't. It's dry wit, and I have a dry sense of humour. Please keep posting humour if you like.
Rachael, if you're having trouble giving up smoking, maybe the money you spend on cigarettes could go onto nicotine patches and gum until you feel more able to quit smoking. That way you can ease yourself off of it. Then you will have the money from not smoking.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/11/2009 1:42:37 AM
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{{{{{{{{{Rachael}}}}}}}}
You've had many victories in your life. You will with this too, when it's time.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/11/2009 2:18:57 AM
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(((((((((((((((RACHAEL)))))))))))))))))
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/12/2009 10:52:25 AM
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Ah Thanks Maggie. It is just a nagging feeling I get sometimes. I think It has alot to do with the fact that I don't work outside of the home,so I don't bring in any money. I don't work outside the home either yet even when I did, it was HIS money.
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if I would qit smoking and drinking Dr.Pepper it would put more money in his pocket to spend on what he wants to buy. Exactly what happened in my case. I quit smoking. Do I see the rewards of that? No! All the money saved goes into HIS pocket. Oh, it's hard not to feel resentment.
My bible lesson this week is on having a pure heart and God's Refining Fire. I struggle with the pure heart when it regards my feelings towards my oldest son and my husband. I struggle with resentments even though my husband did apologize for his snide comments and said he loved me I struggle.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/12/2009 11:08:23 AM
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7 Specific Characteristics Present in a Person With A Pure Heart
#1 A Foundation of Pure Motives
A. Seek God with all you have
B. Love Him with your whole heart
C. Sincere adoration
D. Desire only good for others
#2 A Clear Conscience
#3 Unselfishness Growing From the Heart
A. Rid Self of Sin (Confession)
B. Taste God's Goodness (Salvation)
C. Love God Sincerely (Pure Motives)
D. Obey God's Truth (Clean Conscience)
E. Make a Difference in the World (Unselfish Life
#4 Clean Thoughts & Language
#5 Giving Without Expecting Anything in Return
#6 A God-Centered Focus, Not a World-Centered Focus
#7 A need for refining the Heart and Life
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/12/2009 11:42:07 AM
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Do You Have a Pure Heart?
Pure Heart Quiz
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/12/2009 6:38:13 PM
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I read here, Ginny, but I struggle with what you must write. G-d bless you.
I wish were an angel who could swoop down and lift you up in to a place of perfect beauty with mirrors. I would take you to the mirror, have you look at yourself, and tell you gently, "This is not the Ginny I know. Let me show her to you."
I would wash away every tear you have ever cried. I would smooth away every line that your broken heart has placed on your face. I would lift your hair into a cascade of bejeweled curls.
I would clothe you with an intricate embroidered work, and bending over, I would put the most beautiful, soft shoes you have ever had on your feet. I would cover you with the finest silk and satins. I would decked you with ornaments: bracelets on your hands, delicate chain on your neck. Jewels would brush your forehead, and earrings would deck your ears I would place a light, beautiful crown upon your head -- one due the daughter of the King. You would be decked with gold and silver; your every piece of clothing would be the best of effervescent satins, silk, and embroidered work.
I would watch your eyes as you watch this transformation. I would be silent as you began to see the Ginny G-d sees. As you start to understand, your eyes would mist, but He would reach down and catch the tear in a bottle before it spills. You would see who you are.
You would sit back and be served the finest delicacies, and your fame for your beauty, honor, and graciousness would be made known to those nearest you and to those far away, to all who ever treated you ungraciously, to those who ever looked down on you, to all who ever spoke cruelly.
And some day, something much like this is going to be the case for you. This is what will happen for a daughter of the King, called forth, chosen, and loved.
Sometimes, what you write, the questions you ask, what I think you are suffering makes me So Angry. I want to SCREAM. But Someone is holding me back from doing that. I wish I understood.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/12/2009 7:03:51 PM
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Abiyah, that is so beautiful. And so very true. I'm afraid your last paragraph best says what I feel when I read or hear of Ginny's situation, and I'm afraid I have a difficult time saying things that encourage her . . . Ginny, please know I agree with Abiyah completely here . . . this is something I would like to say to you in my calmer moments
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/12/2009 10:41:13 PM
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My husband is an ill man. He has NASH and it is now Cirrhosis of the Liver. His platelet count is very low which causes him to bleed easily. He bleeds from his testicles every day leaving blood on our sheets and on the towels he puts down on our furniture. He is dependent on me for his food needs as he won't and can't cook for himself. He hurts frequently and suffers. Communication is difficult with him as he takes my comments in trying to stand up to snide comments from him as verbal attacks on my part. Yet he does apologize.
My oldest son suffers from a low self image. He has strong emotions and these emotions color his mind. His thinking suffers. He is a good father to his daughter and there is much that is good about him. I don't like his lack of respect for me but in trying to stand up and receive more from he has seen that as me not loving him. Communication is difficult, very difficult.
Communication has always been difficult for me. I grew up with little one on one when I was a child in communicating with my parents. My dad had an explosive temper and this caused me to be a fearful child who hid behind books and day dreaming. I did not learn how to confront differences in opinions. My mom was very critical. I never heard one word of praise from her when I was growing up. I didn't hear praise until I was in my mid-twenties and I confronted her during one of her, "This is what you need to improve, Ginny" sessions. I asked her for a word of praise and it flabbergasted her.
I was in my 30's before my relationship with my parents began to be one in which we were friends and communicated better. They loved me and tried to change after I confronted them. Dad grew calmer, mom gave more praise but the childhood I had did affect my relationship skills. My husband is gregarious and gives praise. Yes he is abusive verbally too but it is hard for me to stay mad at him even though I do struggle with resentments.
I know I need counseling. I know the stresses in my life is what led to me having a very strong nervous breakdown several years ago and led to me being bipolar where stress factors are very difficult for me now. Yet I can't afford counseling. This thread and sharing with Maggie and Linda has helped me so much. I don't want to prejudice people against my loved ones nor would I have them be prayed about in such a way God would discipline them strongly. I love my family. I loved my dad and my mom and I love the ones I live with now.
It is difficult.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/12/2009 11:02:05 PM
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How to Get Respect from Others
Self confidence and self-esteem are not my strengths.
Self-confidence and self-esteem are also important factors to make a man respectable. If you do not like your own self, or your life or the way you’re living your life, then people will not regard you as respectable either.
One of my biggest fears that I struggle with is committing a sin that is unforgivable. I fear that God is mad at me or that I've done something to make him not forgive me. It hurts and I get all anxious and fearful.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/12/2009 11:21:05 PM
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I don't want to prejudice people against my loved ones nor would I have them be prayed about in such a way God would discipline them strongly. I love my family. I loved my dad and my mom and I love the ones I live with now.
It is difficult.
Ginny, I would not pray for your people that way. Never. And I knew there was a reason I needed to not vent in strong words what I was thinking; now, I know why He wanted me to be quiet.
G-d bless you, Ginny. You are in my prayers, strongly. But this is what I pray for you:
That you are given more of G-d's strength and joy than you though possible.
That you are guarded, comforted, protected by G-d.
That you find full release from those things you struggle with.
That your husband will have, both physically and spiritually, what G-d wants to give him.
That He will bring your husband to a place of full surrender to Him so that the comfort of the H Spirit will be his and he will respond accordingly.
That all your children will "rise up and call you blessed" and that they will see that your worth is "far beyond rubies."
That your children will be strengthened in the L-rd and that they will walk in the right paths and bring your grandchildren along in those paths with them.
G-d bless you as you seek His ways. You are one gutsy lady. I love your strength.
You take care, Ginny. i will think of you and pray for you often, because I sometimes call my own daughter Jenny.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/12/2009 11:27:37 PM
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ORIGINAL: vmginny
How to Get Respect from Others
Self confidence and self-esteem are not my strengths.
Self-confidence and self-esteem are also important factors to make a man respectable. If you do not like your own self, or your life or the way you’re living your life, then people will not regard you as respectable either.
One of my biggest fears that I struggle with is committing a sin that is unforgivable. I fear that God is mad at me or that I've done something to make him not forgive me. It hurts and I get all anxious and fearful.
I just read this post, Ginny, so please forgive me for writing one more note.
The unforgivable sin is refusing forgiveness, refusing salvation, refusing the call of the H Spirit, up to the day you die, Ginny. Let this fear go. You obviously love the L-rd. The accuser is accusing and harassing you. You don't need that.
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Abiyah, if you had known them as G-d knows them, you would have answered them differently.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/13/2009 12:31:27 AM
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I read here, Ginny, but I struggle with what you must write. G-d bless you.
I wish were an angel who could swoop down and lift you up in to a place of perfect beauty with mirrors. I would take you to the mirror, have you look at yourself, and tell you gently, "This is not the Ginny I know. Let me show her to you."
I would wash away every tear you have ever cried. I would smooth away every line that your broken heart has placed on your face. I would lift your hair into a cascade of bejeweled curls.
I would clothe you with an intricate embroidered work, and bending over, I would put the most beautiful, soft shoes you have ever had on your feet. I would cover you with the finest silk and satins. I would decked you with ornaments: bracelets on your hands, delicate chain on your neck. Jewels would brush your forehead, and earrings would deck your ears I would place a light, beautiful crown upon your head -- one due the daughter of the King. You would be decked with gold and silver; your every piece of clothing would be the best of effervescent satins, silk, and embroidered work.
I would watch your eyes as you watch this transformation. I would be silent as you began to see the Ginny G-d sees. As you start to understand, your eyes would mist, but He would reach down and catch the tear in a bottle before it spills. You would see who you are.
You would sit back and be served the finest delicacies, and your fame for your beauty, honor, and graciousness would be made known to those nearest you and to those far away, to all who ever treated you ungraciously, to those who ever looked down on you, to all who ever spoke cruelly.
And some day, something much like this is going to be the case for you. This is what will happen for a daughter of the King, called forth, chosen, and loved.
Sometimes, what you write, the questions you ask, what I think you are suffering makes me So Angry. I want to SCREAM. But Someone is holding me back from doing that. I wish I understood.
Abiyah, that was soooo beautiful. I can hardly type through the tears. I needed that too. Not because I deal with what Ginny does, but just because I so often have a hard time remembering how much God loves me. I can't thank you enough. God bless you Abiyah.
Ginny print this out and read it to yourself every morning and thank the Lord for loving you like this. I'm printing it out too.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/13/2009 12:41:19 AM
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Abiyah, that was soooo beautiful. I can hardly type through the tears. I needed that too. Not because I deal with what Ginny does, but just because I so often have a hard time remembering how much God loves me. I can't thank you enough. God bless you Abiyah. Yes THANK YOU, Abiyah.
I should have written sooner for taking the time to beautifully post a comment.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/13/2009 12:43:49 AM
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G-d bless you, Ginny. You are in my prayers, strongly. But this is what I pray for you:
That you are given more of G-d's strength and joy than you though possible.
That you are guarded, comforted, protected by G-d.
That you find full release from those things you struggle with.
That your husband will have, both physically and spiritually, what G-d wants to give him.
That He will bring your husband to a place of full surrender to Him so that the comfort of the H Spirit will be his and he will respond accordingly.
That all your children will "rise up and call you blessed" and that they will see that your worth is "far beyond rubies."
That your children will be strengthened in the L-rd and that they will walk in the right paths and bring your grandchildren along in those paths with them.
G-d bless you as you seek His ways. You are one gutsy lady. I love your strength. Wow!
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Looking at them, Jesus *said, “ With people it is impossible, but not with God; for all things are possible with God.”
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/14/2009 1:05:06 AM
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G-d bless you.
I wish were an angel who could swoop down and lift you up in to a place of perfect beauty with mirrors. I would take you to the mirror, have you look at yourself, and tell you gently, "This is not the Ginny I know. Let me show her to you."
I would wash away every tear you have ever cried. I would smooth away every line that your broken heart has placed on your face. I would lift your hair into a cascade of bejeweled curls.
I would clothe you with an intricate embroidered work, and bending over, I would put the most beautiful, soft shoes you have ever had on your feet. I would cover you with the finest silk and satins. I would decked you with ornaments: bracelets on your hands, delicate chain on your neck. Jewels would brush your forehead, and earrings would deck your ears I would place a light, beautiful crown upon your head -- one due the daughter of the King. You would be decked with gold and silver; your every piece of clothing would be the best of effervescent satins, silk, and embroidered work.
I would watch your eyes as you watch this transformation. I would be silent as you began to see the Ginny G-d sees. As you start to understand, your eyes would mist, but He would reach down and catch the tear in a bottle before it spills. You would see who you are.
You would sit back and be served the finest delicacies, and your fame for your beauty, honor, and graciousness would be made known to those nearest you and to those far away, to all who ever treated you ungraciously, to those who ever looked down on you, to all who ever spoke cruelly.
And some day, something much like this is going to be the case for you. This is what will happen for a daughter of the King, called forth, chosen, and loved.
This is so beautiful, Abiyah. Thankyou for this. I needed to hear this too.
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From this time forth, with the powers vested in me, this post serves as public notice of the issuance of one unrevocable lisence to cherish405 to have special dispensation in the matter of drive-by huggings as she sees fit. ~rayofson~
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/14/2009 11:08:31 AM
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Oh Edith! I don't remember anything you've said to be disturbing to me. Abiyah's kindness was harder to hear actually. I need work on accepting kindness.
And we all need work to have pure hearts. That was/is what my bible lesson is on this week. I struggle so with resentments and I've had so much depth to bitterness on how I've been treated in the past that I'm sure God didn't like this in me. I learned the hard way bitterness causes sin problems in your family too.
It is not bad to be a fighter. The bible does say, Be angry, just don't let it lead to sin. God gives us permission to be fighters. Yet he says there's a way to fight and I've not always known how to do so the bible way.
I get depressed. Mom says I make excuses for my husband and children and I believe Linda would agree with her because she's heard me make excuses. I get confused. And I feel like it is hard to step out of the box of behavior and choose new ones.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/14/2009 5:37:50 PM
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Posted on facebook 3 things, one a music number, two a heartwarming animal story, and three a serious look on Christianity.
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You gotta refuse those kind of feelings, they are toxic. But I am sure you know that so go ahead and ignore me, it won't hurt my felings. 
