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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 12:02:10 AM
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vmginny
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Alright I will. This is what I found last night when I was up studying my book, doing my lesson. It asked for me to list practical activities for showing God I love Him so true to self I said to myself, "Ginny, go do a search on the net for that answer." and sure enough I found some practical activities.
15 Way to Love Your Neighbor
Loving our neighbor is loving God. I also thought of reading the bible is a very practical way for showing God we love Him. And in my case maybe giving up something that my son wants that I want to keep. Not sure I can do that yet or not.
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Last night my oldest and I had an argument. (My oldest is 31 and living with us along with his daughter.) I said, "I am getting a copy of my marriage license." My husband asked why I needed that. I said, "Because I need it to cash in my life insurance policies." Husband said, "Why do you need to do that." I said, "Because I want a computer."
My mom had given me 3 life insurance policies her and dad had taken out on me years ago. Not worth much but had some worth and they were mine to do with as I wish. They were also in my maiden name so I needed proof of my marriage and my name now to cash them in which I thought I would do to buy a computer of my very own something I don't have right now. And since my son's computer crashed I've been going to the library or my daughter's house to be on a computer. My sons both my oldest and my youngest have laptops at the house I live in but neither one will let me use their computer. They say I am the reason computers crash. Oh well that's another story, won't go there right now.
Anyhoo....my oldest hears my statements and gets in a tissy. He said, "Mom all you have to do is take my computer to the computer store and get it fixed. I GAVE you that computer!" I said, "No you said it was a trade for the picnic table and I want to keep the picnic table and I wasn't privy to the trade and I don't want it." He said, "Mom, what is wrong with you! You have a computer all you need to do is fix it! And you don't need the picnic table." "You are being prideful and stupid."
I said, "I really want to keep my picnic table and I want a new computer that is mine alone." You see I don't want a hand me down computer that is trade off of something I want to keep and that is fixed from a virus I believe my granddaughter put on it with going to gaming harbor (gaming harbor insists on being present no matter what)
It is really difficult for me when this son argues with me. He makes me feel so tiny and I feel I can't communicate with him. Yet if I love God I'll be a peacemaker and let him have the picnic table right?
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 12:09:40 AM
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vmginny
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I said, "I really want to keep my picnic table and I want a new computer that is mine alone." Oh, when I said that hubby said, "It's not your table anyway. It's mine and I don't see what your problem is."
ERRRRRRr.....nothing in this house is mine. It is all belongs to my husband according to him and this oldest son.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 12:18:53 AM
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ORIGINAL: vmginny
Abuse is insidious as we love those who abuse us.
Very true. In my case, both my parents were my abusers. Both were alcoholics. To a lesser extent, my youngest brother was also an abuser. He wouldn't think so, but I did.
((((((((((((((((((GINNY)))))))))))))))))))))))))
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 12:31:12 AM
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Very true. In my case, both my parents were my abusers. Both were alcoholics. To a lesser extent, my youngest brother was also an abuser. He wouldn't think so, but I did. I sympathize with you, sorry to hear this. {{{{Trish}}}}
How has this affected your relationships now?
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 12:55:06 AM
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Both my parents have passed on now. Despite all that went on, when I found out my mother was dying, I was so upset that my mother didn't know Jesus. Again, after my father died, I was so upset that he didn't know Jesus. I found out years later that my sister in law had led them both to the Lord before they died, but in the meantime, I was devastated.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 2:40:47 AM
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Oh Trish that would have been the pits to not know if your parents knew Jesus before they died. I'm so glad you know now that they did.
God blessed me that the last time I saw my dad during his visit he went to church with me and when we had communion dad took communion. A pure joy swept through my soul when he did. Later during the visit I asked him about his faith.
He was 87 and he had never said he believed in Jesus to me. He told me he accepted Jesus as his savior as a young child and was baptized then and yes he was a believer.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 2:53:12 AM
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I stayed up late Saturday night playing rummikub and didn't get to bed until after midnight. For me Sunday morning church service starts at 8:00 am. I set the alarm but I didn't do it right and it didn't go off until 7:30 am and when I woke up I said too late turned over and went back to sleep thinking I'll go to the late service at 10:30 am. Bad move on my part. By the time I needed to get up for that service I was too fogged down with sleep to wake up. Needless to say I missed going to church this pass Sunday.
Ok....I think. I'll just listen to the tape on the website which I did tonight. Uh Oh....guess what the sermon was on. One guess seeing the above paragraph. Um...you are right. It was on laziness and it was actually called the Snooze Button. Boy did that sermon hit me between the eyes. Ouch! And not only that if I'd had been there Sunday I would have had to stand up in the room and let the minister know it hit me between the eyes because he asked those who heard the message and it applied to them to stand up at their seats. Oooo....kinda glad I wasn't there. Wonder if it was geared specifically for me. Whew! That was close.
I am lazy. And slothful. Yes I can't handle stress well. Yes I am bipolar. Yes I live with verbal abuse and a macho household. Yet I know I AM lazy. It reeks in my bones and permeates all I do. I am slow too.
So hurting from the sermon I decide to look up on the net (I love to do research) how to overcome laziness and this is what I found.
OVERCOMING LAZINESS!!!!
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 9:54:30 AM
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Rachael is so right, Ginny. Don't argue at all. Just do what you want with the money. As far as the table goes, you know that IF your son every gets a place of his own, he will take what he wants and what you say will not stop him, so what is the point of arguing?
I think you have made great strides in the last week or so, Ginny, and that is great! It's even good to hear you not stressing out about having missed church, but instead listened to the pastor's sermon and gleaned some important things from it. Personally, I believe God may be more pleased with that than if you'd gone to church, sat in the pew and gleaned little or nothing from the sermon . . we are guilty of that many times.
I'd like the recipe for your stir-fried rice sometime. I love stir-fried rice, but have never tired making it from scratch.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 10:52:35 AM
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I agree with the others. If you want a computer of your own, get one. Maybe I'm wrong, but it sounds as though your son is hoping you'll fix his computer seeing as he seems to think that when you use it, it breaks. Maybe when your computer doesn't break, he'll see that you're not the cause of the computer problems.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 11:55:54 AM
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I'd like the recipe for your stir-fried rice sometime. I love stir-fried rice, but have never tired making it from scratch. Will be glad to give you the recipe. It's easy to make, time consuming but easy. The time consuming part is the time it takes to cut everything up into small pieces. I like it because it has several vegetables as well as the rice and pork even has eggs in it.
Trish, that's my hope that I get my own computer and it won't break then they can't say I'm the cause. And yes, he expects my husband and I to fix the computer probably didn't even think of the possibility he could fix it. He has a laptop now and that is what he's using.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/8/2009 12:54:31 PM
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cherish405
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Well, with him having a laptop, I'm glad that once you get yourself a computer, he won't have the need then to suddenly 'borrow' YOUR computer.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/9/2009 12:03:14 AM
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Ginny, it seems there is no point in talking to the male members of your household. They are all very selfish and treat you with gross disrespect.
Just go about doing what you are entitled to do. The policies are yours; get a copy of the marriage license and just go and buy the computer.
You have been doing so well lately and we are all proud of you. But you have to realize that you are doing things around the house for yourself and you are doing them as unto the Lord. You might as well accept the fact that nobody in your household is going to appreciate anything you do.
Ginny, deep down, I think we all know that we have a lazy streak about something or other. Don't put yourself down so much. You live in very difficult circumstances (you certainly don't get encouragement, that's for sure!) so it's no surprise that you don't feel like doing much. Yes, the article was good and its something that we can all use a reminder about. But again, don't take it upon yourself that everything is your responsibility. If you want to see lazy, look at the males in your house!!!
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/9/2009 2:36:54 AM
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Now for some HUMOR.
Said in court?
These are things people actually said in court, word for word, taken down and now published by court reporters. How did they keep from laughing while these were all taking place?
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/9/2009 4:05:07 AM
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cherish405
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*Groan*. Still very good though. 
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/9/2009 4:14:26 AM
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Too much? Guess I should've shorten it.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/9/2009 4:16:30 AM
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cherish405
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I thought they were funny. I'll read them to John when he comes back inside.
In the meantime, I'd better get outside and feed Bailey his dinner.
Hope you can get some good sleep soon, Ginny.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/9/2009 4:17:33 AM
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I shorten it. Linked it instead.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/9/2009 10:55:57 AM
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J, my 6 year old grandson, says the fish in the aquarium are going to sleep all day because they didn't get any sleep last night. The aquarium light was on.
Glad you enjoyed the court room humor. I'm trying to have a variety of posts humor, serious, spiritual, and sharing. Love when I get comments too. That's feedback and I love feedback.
It has been nice babysitting my grandson these last few days. I love my daughter's house. She has a nice house with lots of space and a wonderful big kitchen. It is in a good neighborhood too. And the three bedrooms, living room, dining room, kitchen, and bathroom are all on one level so it is much like a rambler. I never go downstairs to the den too many steps. Steps are hard on my knees.
J is writing in his book. He likes to make books from computer paper stapled together. He had me write his story though too many words for him to write out but he is coloring the pictures to his book. J is in kindergarten this year.
I'm tired. I didn't go to bed until close to 4 am. Couldn't sleep and it was fun having a computer on hand to play on. Didn't get my bible study done either. I'm bad.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/10/2009 1:45:51 AM
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Yet if I love God I'll be a peacemaker and let him have the picnic table right? I don't think that being a peacemaker is letting someone walk all over you and getting whatever they want.
England's Prime Minister, Chamberlain, in the time leading up to World WarII wanted peace and saw himself as a peacemaker. When Germany crossed the Maginot Line in France (a violation of the WWI treaties), Chamberlain went to have peace talks with Hitler. When Hitler annexed Austria, Chamberlain went to have peace talks. Same when Hitler took some of Czechoslovakia. He had the power to stop Hitler in his tracks and he chose not to because he was sure that talking was all that was needed. It obviously wasn't and Hitler just laughed in his sleeve and went on violating the sovereignty of Britain's allies until Britain finally stood up to him and declared war.
Chamberlain would have fostered more peace if he had come down hard on Hitler in the first place. For you, you may find you have more peace if you stand up to your son and say enough is enough! He may begin, finally, to respect you.
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Oh, when I said that hubby said, "It's not your table anyway. It's mine and I don't see what your problem is."
ERRRRRRr.....nothing in this house is mine. It is all belongs to my husband according to him and this oldest son. {{{{{{{Ginny}}}}}}}
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First of all, I wouldn't waste time argueing with your son, he is disrespectful talking back to you like that and the fact that he is as old as he is makes it even worse. He ought to fix that computer for you and then give it to you without expecting anything in return. You are his Mama and deserve to be treated with respect. ...
I don't see why they are making a big deal if you use something of yours to get something you want. I would do it if it was what I really wanted regardless of what they said. Doesn't sound to me like they are going to have anything useful to say anyway. I agree completely! And Rachael, I'm sorry you feel like nothing in your house is yours either. {{{{{{{{{Rachael}}}}}}}
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Ginny, it seems there is no point in talking to the male members of your household. They are all very selfish and treat you with gross disrespect.
Just go about doing what you are entitled to do. The policies are yours; get a copy of the marriage license and just go and buy the computer.
You have been doing so well lately and we are all proud of you. But you have to realize that you are doing things around the house for yourself and you are doing them as unto the Lord. You might as well accept the fact that nobody in your household is going to appreciate anything you do.
Ginny, deep down, I think we all know that we have a lazy streak about something or other. Don't put yourself down so much. You live in very difficult circumstances (you certainly don't get encouragement, that's for sure!) so it's no surprise that you don't feel like doing much. Yes, the article was good and its something that we can all use a reminder about. But again, don't take it upon yourself that everything is your responsibility. If you want to see lazy, look at the males in your house!!! I whole-heartedly agree!
Ginny, I like your thread and I like that you throw in various different things.
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Rachael 
To me (and I know it isn't true) it's like if I would qit smoking and drinking Dr.Pepper it would put more money in his pocket to spend on what he wants to buy.