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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/27/2009 4:58:48 PM
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humbleinspirit
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Hi Ginny, how are you doing today?
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/27/2009 5:43:28 PM
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Mike, I'm not doing bad. Am happy I am getting some things done at home. Have a pot roast in the crockpot too.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/27/2009 5:50:01 PM
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Thats good to hear Ginny, I am glad that you are having a good day! 
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/27/2009 6:25:22 PM
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That's great, Ginny! I'm glad things are better for you and that you're able to do a few things. This weekend has been good for me too.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/28/2009 9:45:26 PM
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Hi Mike, Maggie and Edith!
How would you speak to the teenage boy who lives with you who is not a blood relative and who this weekend had intimate relations with a girl who is the girlfriend of a friend of his? I'm perplexed. My reaction upon hearing what he did is yuck..how could he? But say something to him about it that's another story. I'm not sure I can or should. My sons and my husband would say it is not my place to do so and that I am wrong anyway. Hubby did say though that he should have kept his pants zipped up but he also said the girl raped him as she invited him over to her house knowing her parents were not home.
I did find this on the Internet: 10 Lies Christian Teens Tell Themselves
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/28/2009 11:24:55 PM
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Why is this boy living in your house? Does he contribute to the household in any way?
Why is he talking about it? Is he proud of it?
I'm sorry ginny, but what your husband said about the girl raping him is disgusting. I doubt anyone had to twist this kids rubber arm. And it's his word against the girl's. We all know how the males in your household think.
Ginny, I don't know how you put up with these kinds of attitudes and comments all the time.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/28/2009 11:46:41 PM
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Why is this boy living in your house? He is a close friend of my son and when he needed a place to stay this year my husband said, "Sure you can live at our house."
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Does he contribute to the household in any way? He'll buy milk and some food like Hot Pockets or a bag of cereal.
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Why is he talking about it? Is he proud of it? I didn't hear it from him but from my husband who was telling the story to another teen boy friend of this boy. The boy was at our house after the one who lives with us went off to work. I don't know how my husband found out. But I guess one of the kids told him. They tell him lots of stuff.
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We all know how the males in your household think.
Ginny, I don't know how you put up with these kinds of attitudes and comments all the time. I get depressed and sleep a lot. Don't know how to fix that. And Maggie and Linda would let me vent to them but I think they've gotten tired of being sounding boards.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/28/2009 11:53:23 PM
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My heart goes out to you. I have no answers to life's problems either.
I've lived by myself for so long that I have a hard time really understanding some things. Sorry if I am adding to the problem. It just sounds like money is kind of tight around there so why would your husband open the door to freeloaders.
Does this kid also go to school?
I think I would spend as much time away from there as I could.
Did you go to your small group last night? You were looking forward to it.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/29/2009 12:13:25 AM
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I think I would spend as much time away from there as I could. I do. I come over to my daughter's house when she's at work. I'm away from home tonight.
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Does this kid also go to school? He's a senior in high school. When his parents moved this year he wanted to stay and finish out his senior year at the high school he has been going to. He is a good kid but I feel he did a stupid, foolish act of sin. I also feel a male should upbraid him on it because if he continues to do things like this it will affect his relationships in the future. He is making poor life decisions.
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Sorry if I am adding to the problem Why do you say that?
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Did you go to your small group last night? You were looking forward to it. Yes I did. We have two more ladies in our group and I know both of them. One of them is in my Sunday School class. She had an insight that was great. She said that an infant needs milk (we were discussing milk vs. solid food) and up chucks and cries and needs constant care but there is only so much you can do in relating to an infant.
An infant cannot speak and talk with you and converse. While an older child can communicate better and though you love your children no matter what their age as they grow older and can communicate with you you are able to go deeper in your relationship with them. She said God desires his children to grow up because he desires a closer relationship with us.
This Life Group is on growing in a deeper relationship with the Lord. Growing holy. I thought her comment was profound.
To combat the attitudes and comments at home and the shows my family like to watch, I need a closer relationship with the Lord and the ability to have one. I hope my life group will help me on that. I know church and Sunday School help me too.
And I hope this thread will help as well. I am a needy person and I need people interaction. I hope also that I will give back and be able to love my family and my friends.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/29/2009 12:50:57 AM
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I think the Lord has given you the gift of hope Gee, thanks. I appreciate your comments.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 9/29/2009 9:59:08 AM
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How would you speak to the teenage boy who lives with you who is not a blood relative and who this weekend had intimate relations with a girl who is the girlfriend of a friend of his? You can tell him what he may and may not do in your house (for example, no girls in your bedroom, no illegal or misused drugs in the house, no smoking in the house, etc.) but unless you're his legal guardian, I don't know that you have any authority over him. If you have earned his confidence, and he feels comfortable sharing with you, then you might have an opening to share your concerns. Other than that, I don't know that there is much you can do.
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And Maggie and Linda would let me vent to them but I think they've gotten tired of being sounding boards. I haven't, Ginny. I'm willing to listen. I might have some thoughts to share too.
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An infant cannot speak and talk with you and converse. While an older child can communicate better and though you love your children no matter what their age as they grow older and can communicate with you you are able to go deeper in your relationship with them. She said God desires his children to grow up because he desires a closer relationship with us. That is a very good analogy. I like it!
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/1/2009 1:45:28 AM
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Wish I could, Ginny. This computer is far too old to be able to play games on it. We'd need to get a new one first, and I can't see that happening any time soon.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/3/2009 1:26:54 AM
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My computer crashed and I have vbeen usingv my daugvhters. Now hers is avcting up. Hope she doesn't vblame me. See all the v s showingv up? That is what it is doing now plus her printer is not workingv.
It will be hard to post anything.
Our high school varsity football team has won all their games so far and tonight was no different. My son plays 2nd string varsity and first string junior varsity football. And tomorrow is HomeComing. I really need to clean up the house and have it presentable for all the company we may get tomorrow. The boy who lives with us, a friend of my son's, has been nominated for HomeComing King. Not sure he will get it now with what he has done, mentioned in a previous post but he may. He is popular.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/4/2009 12:20:57 AM
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vmginny
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What is anxiety?
What is Generalized Anxiety Disorder?
Why do I care about either one?
Long story. I'll tell more later.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/4/2009 9:57:19 PM
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Let me just say that I truly deeply loved my dad and still do. I miss him and wish he was alive today.
This evening after the lesson the ladies in my life group had a general chat discussion. For some reason we got on to abuse. One of the ladies said when she taught she had a child who said their parent shoved them against a wall and she had to report the abuse to the authorities. I said, "so shoving a child against a wall is considered abuse?" Mainly because I had that happen to me several times when I was growing up. Didn't like it much but it was done to me.
My dad had an impulsive temper and his moods changed easily. I grew up in an environment where I never knew what would set him off and I feared him and his outbursts. I can remember hiding in the dog house with the dog so he, my dad, wouldn't find me. And I was definitely embarrassed the time I brought the neighbor girl to our house to meet my parents and dad who I didn't know had been looking for me. Well he saw me and being angry started kicking me in the butt all the way to the house. I didn't introduce my neighbor friend.
I know what it is like to have your head banged against a wall and hair to be pulled out of your head. And what it is like to see a sibling spanked so hard with a belt that the welts swell up on her legs and behind. I hated spankings. The punishment never taught me what I had done wrong. All it taught me was fear and to work on being so sensitive to body language and voice changes that I could detect when I was in trouble and find a way to remove myself from the person who could harm me as fast as I could.
I remember solitary walks in the woods, daydreaming and talking to God asking him whys. And I remember doing my best to be GOOD.
But yes I love my dad.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/4/2009 11:49:20 PM
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My dad had an impulsive temper and his moods changed easily. I grew up in an environment where I never knew what would set him off and I feared him and his outbursts. I can remember hiding in the dog house with the dog so he, my dad, wouldn't find me. And I was definitely embarrassed the time I brought the neighbor girl to our house to meet my parents and dad who I didn't know had been looking for me. Well he saw me and being angry started kicking me in the butt all the way to the house. I didn't introduce my neighbor friend.
I know what it is like to have your head banged against a wall and hair to be pulled out of your head. And what it is like to see a sibling spanked so hard with a belt that the welts swell up on her legs and behind. I hated spankings. The punishment never taught me what I had done wrong. All it taught me was fear and to work on being so sensitive to body language and voice changes that I could detect when I was in trouble and find a way to remove myself from the person who could harm me as fast as I could.
Ginny, Ginny, I'm glad you love your dad and have forgiven him.
But what he did was abusive and cruel and those were not spankings; those were beatings. It sounds like he used whoever was handy and helpless to take out his anger on.
That's so sad Ginny. I'm sorry you've experiences so much hurt in your life.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/5/2009 12:01:31 AM
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I pray that God will remove the pain of these memories, Ginny. Of course you loved your dad -- he was your dad. Our parents aren't perfect -- no parents are, but it's so very sad when this kind of behavior is so much the 'norm' of a child's life that she/he doesn't recognize it as abuse.
Please, Dear God, let Ginny rest in peace and tranquility tonight. Take away the painful memories of her past, and replace them with joy unspeakable. Let her walk in your mercy and grace, being completely aware of your love for her and your protection over her soul, her mind and her body. As she sleeps tonight fill her with your comfort and strength. Help her to wake tomorrow with a renewed and refreshed mind and body and walk in your presence all day. In your precious name, Amen.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/5/2009 4:25:48 AM
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Amen to Linda's prayer and I agree with what both she and Edith said. I'm so sorry you had to endure that.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/6/2009 7:33:59 PM
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Abuse is insidious as we love those who abuse us.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/7/2009 8:07:47 PM
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J my 6 year old grandson is home sick with possibly strep throat and I'm babysitting. He's bored so we went for a walk. The playground is a bit away from the house so we walked there then J was a bit mad because I wouldn't let him play on the play equipment. Strep throat. Other kids. Germs. No way. He said, "Well why did we come here?" and I said, "Because you wanted to go for a walk, duh."
J had a nice twig he picked up that looked much like the switches from a tree mom or dad would want us to get when we were bad and needed a spanking. I was a bit leery of him all the way home since he was pee o at me but we made it home with him only once lightly placing the twig on my head. He is a good kid.
I made pork fried rice for supper at my house before coming over to my daughter's house. T my oldest son and H my granddaughter were eating it when I left at 4:10 pm. Hubby wouldn't get any until after my youngest son's football practice was over. He goes everyday to watch them practice. It is the main thing he does everyday. He watches TV when he's up. He will get the mail, and pay the bills and even run them by where they need to go.
I stayed up last night again, didn't get as much cleaning done as I wanted to. The frig still needs to be cleaned. I was tired and went to bed around 3 am. Slept until 1:30 then woke up with an awareness I needed to get up. I did get up and then went downstairs and plunked myself into a chair and promptly went back to sleep but suddenly there was a loud bang on our front door. Thought to myself yep God wants me awake for some reason so I changed chairs and went back to sleep again then the phone rings. It is my daughter saying that J is sick and she needs someone to come over earlier than usual because of the construction on the highway.
No problem. Knew then why God wanted me up. I'd promised my husband fried rice for supper and we were out of onions. Fried rice without onion, not good so I ran to the store for the onions and then came home to make the rice. H came home from school as I was getting the pork on. She helped stir it while I cut up carrots, potato, onions and garlic. I put peas in my rice too and eggs. I had cut up pork the night before and put it in a stir fry marinate. And I had made the rice last night too. As soon as I got the rice done I headed on over to my daughter's house.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/7/2009 8:24:58 PM
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Nevermind what I've posted before the book we are using for the Ladies' Life Group is "Deeper Still: A Woman's Study to a Closer Walk With God."
We are on Study Unit #2 which is about God's Love for Us.
I've been studying the units at night when I can't sleep and looking up all the scripture verses. There's a lot of scripture verses in this book. Any way this is what I've found from this unit so far:
Characteristic of God's Love
(1) God loved us First[/i] before we loved Him.
(2) God is rich in His mercy because of His Great love for us.
(3) Lovingkindness is everlasting to everlasting for those who fear Him.
(4) God is compassionate and tender towards us.
(5) God is faithful in His love and He keeps His covenant.
(6) God will never let us be separated from Him.
(7) God's love fulfills the law.
(8) God's love covers all my transgressions.
(9) God demonstrated His love by dying for us.
(10) The Holy Spirit pours out love for God in our hearts.
(11) If we keep His commandments He abides in us.
(12) Our love for god shows God knows us.
(13) God blesses us.
(14) God gives us light, salvation, and defense.
(15) God cherishes us.
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Looking at them, Jesus *said, With people it is impossible, but not with God; for all things are possible with God.
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RE: Ginny's Buzz Room - 10/7/2009 11:24:57 PM
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Your pork fried rice sounds yummy!
The Ladies Life Group study sounds very good. Hope you're enjoying it.
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