RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either Chick Or Babe?
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/25/2008 11:42:30 AM
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_MavericK_
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for me it depends on who's calling me chick or babe.
As a musician, its common to be called a "chick guitarist/bassist/drummer" or something. I get called a chick gamer at work a lot. Most of the time, it doesnt bother me because they use it in the same way I use the term "dude." a dude gymnast or something.
Babe is a more personal term to me. If a guy who is not one of my best buds calls me babe, he's on the fast track for a sore nose. I feel like when someone calls me that, I'm being insulted-- it shows that his intentions are not good. Only when I know them well enough to know their intentions do I let them call me babe. And I like I then. 
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/25/2008 4:30:27 PM
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My husband calls me babe. I call him babe, too. I don't mind that. If some random guy off the street referred to me as chick or babe, I would feel a little disrespected.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 7/29/2008 10:00:14 PM
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Context does make a huge difference and there are some contexts in which it doesn't bother me (for instance a friend teasing me in a friendly way). However, most of the time, I do not appreciate being called "chick", "babe" OR "girl". I am an adult woman and should be treated with basic dignity just as I try to treat others with basic respect and dignity. Those terms, in general and in the vast majority of circumstances, do not convey respect or dignity.
Now, I do understand there are "cultural" differences so I try to determine if it's just a cultural thing. For instance, in some parts of the country and among some generations, calling someone "sweetie" isn't disrespectful. Where I live, it's hugely disrespectful. I still don't like it, but I won't bite someone's head off for it. Also, where I live, "ma'am" is a way to convey respect so it puzzles me that some women are offended by it, but then again, where they are from, it may mean something else entirely.
Now, if you want to get into "pet names" for that someone "special", all rules go out the window and to each their own! 
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 8/5/2008 1:58:30 AM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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I live in Honey-Sweetheart-Baby central . . . and I don't like that aspect at all.
Men call women of all ages by those pet names.
Women call men of all ages by those pet names.
Women call women of all ages by those pet names.
(I especially detest this).
When I am at the cash register paying money for something or when I am wondering through a store, I am not someone's Honey, Darlin', Sweetiepie, etc (regardless of whether that someone is a man or a woman). I am a customer. And conversely to what Abiyah doesn't like (different strokes; LOL), I actually prefer "ma'am" (at least in instances of my being a customer or being addressed by someone who doesn't know me. I also use "ma'am" and "sir" when speaking to people that I don't know (I use those words in other instances, also, but predominantly with strangers). I also prefer to be referred to as a lady (when I'm being spoken of in the 3rd person; I don't like, "Hey Lady"). And, I definitely do not like to be referred to as an girl or a gal. Nor do I like to be addressed as "Miss" if the person doing the addressing is obviously and significantly younger than I.
Back to pet names . . . I find it equally disrespectful for a young woman to call an older man honey or other pet names.
I really cannot stand hearing women being called "chicks" - either by women or by men.
If a much older man or woman (as in at least 30 years older than me) calls me a pet name, it doesn't bother me; because I don't see it as being chauvinistic or condescending; I actually see that as sweet.
There are a few (as in not many) men that call me pet names and it doesn't bother me when they do . . . but it is because of our level of our relationship and friendship with each other; and coming from them, I rather like it when they call me Sweets, Dear, Sweetheart, etc.
Clear as mud?
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 8/11/2008 4:00:27 PM
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It doesn't bother me when my male friends do it but it's a different story when I am taking care of business. It really bothers me then. If I walk into your establishment to handle business I prefer to do be asked May I help you Ms not babe.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 8/13/2008 3:53:28 PM
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how can I express my agnst at the diminutive use of the term Babe? I'm not Baribie or a pig. Lets see I loathe, despise, detest, hate is not a strong enough word to express excatly what I think. UNLESS, my husbad calls me "Baby". He's the only one ever but no one else. It feels awkward commnig from another man. I'm no one's pet except my husband's.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 8/13/2008 5:52:06 PM
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Both terms may or may not bother me depending on who is saying it and how they're saying it. I sometimes use the terms myself. My dh calls me babe all the time; however, when it's used in the context of: "Check out that hot chick/babe." or when I'm addressed by a stranger then yep it really bothers me!
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 8/16/2008 1:17:22 PM
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ORIGINAL: norajm
It doesn't bother me when my male friends do it but it's a different story when I am taking care of business. It really bothers me then. If I walk into your establishment to handle business I prefer to do be asked May I help you Ms not babe.
Its not professional to be addressed that way in a corporate setting.
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ORIGINAL: Cloak
I thought that these words were...compliments!? 
When I use the word chick, it is a compliment. A man talking to another man may refer to a woman as a babe, but that is all that I can think of though.
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RE: Does It Bother You When Men Refer To You As Either ... - 8/16/2008 3:44:08 PM
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ORIGINAL: humbleinspirit
I know that in the past that I have met one or two women who felt that way, but other women just see it as a general term towards women in general. How do you feel about these everyday terms?
For me, it depends on the context. Either one of them can be a bit of an endearment, depending on how it is said. But if I were dating someone and they referred to me as "their chick" or "this chick I'm dating" ... well, it would be a problem. But if he called me and said "How's my chick" in a nice voice or "Whachya doin' chickadee?" that'd be different.
Of course - I'm not particularly fond of girl either. I'm not a girl, I'm a woman.
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He thinks he's being flirty and charming but it comes across as incredibly creepy. 
