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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/23/2009 10:21:11 AM
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Bubbles5
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Still trying..sure is a stuggle
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/28/2009 3:36:48 PM
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bettymackII
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This way too cool!
So many new posters who are winning by quitting the habit!!
Have any of you new posters tried the suggestion to have a glass of ice
cold water and sip it through your craving? What happen when you tried it
( I hope, that you tried it several times).
We want to be a daily prayer warrior and encourager as others are consistently doing for you all!
God will give you the strength!
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/28/2009 5:09:09 PM
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manda59
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Still trying..sure is a stuggle
Bubbles,
Did you by any chance see the post I made to rachay on the last page? It may possibly help you.
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I wonder if you have looked back and identified what was going on in your life when you first started smoking, however long ago that was. That means the reasons why you took your first puff, what was behind your continuing. We are all needy people, and people who turn to smoking have needs that they choose to try and meet that way. Nicotine is a suppressant, so people usually continue smoking in order to suppress something.
If you can spend some time quietly with God, reflecting on this, letting Him bring things to mind and help identify these needs for you, you can then move forward to start asking Him to help you turn to Him to meet those needs, and to help you turn to Him to let Him heal the things that the nicotine is suppressing.
Some people find that helps with the quitting process.
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Quitting smoking support thread - 9/28/2009 5:11:44 PM
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Still trying..sure is a stuggle
Bubbles,
Did you by any chance see the post I made to rachay on the last page? It may possibly help you.
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I wonder if you have looked back and identified what was going on in your life when you first started smoking, however long ago that was. That means the reasons why you took your first puff, what was behind your continuing. We are all needy people, and people who turn to smoking have needs that they choose to try and meet that way. Nicotine is a suppressant, so people usually continue smoking in order to suppress something.
If you can spend some time quietly with God, reflecting on this, letting Him bring things to mind and help identify these needs for you, you can then move forward to start asking Him to help you turn to Him to meet those needs, and to help you turn to Him to let Him heal the things that the nicotine is suppressing.
Some people find that helps with the quitting process.
I have thought of that post several times. It has helped me to cut back by understanding why I started.
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Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin and an antiseptic.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/29/2009 5:06:27 PM
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bettymackII
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Bubbles5= You are doing great!
We are so proud of you!
I read your previous post.
You were a 2-packers of nicotine a day, now you are down to 1 pack!!
That is a giant step towards success!
You can do it, with the strength of the Lord, posters who are praying for you and former smokers who have posted their struggles to success over smoking!
We never expect that the first time a person practices on the piano will sound like a professional. So keep struggling until you are a true quitter
and it will be worth it!! You can do it!!
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/29/2009 5:09:21 PM
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Silverstring
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I have tried twice now to quit this month alone. Whats wrong with me!!
I don't know what's wrong with you, but what's RIGHT with you is this: You've tried TWICE to quit. Accept and receive credit for trying and persistence of intent. All you need is ONE successful attempt. Just keep at it. As long as you keep trying, you are doing great.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/29/2009 5:18:21 PM
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bettymackII
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Great words of encouragement! Silverstring!
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/30/2009 9:08:12 AM
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Bubbles5
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Oh thank you soooo much for them encouragement words!!
I REALLY needed them.
My hubby has been smoke-free since Sept. 8th now. He is so dissapointed in my "failure"
I will just keep TRYING and PRAYING
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/30/2009 9:10:51 AM
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manda59
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I know why I smoke..just have to find a way to quit. I think smokeing can help releive the stress. I know that's wrong. It's just a dumb reason. An excuse. I started smokeing to "be cool" way back when...that is no longer the reason
OK, so maybe it would help to look into why, at that time, you felt the need to "be cool", and why you chose to do something that was bad for your health, and made you stink, in order to do so.
How old were you? (if it's ok to ask)
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/30/2009 9:19:46 AM
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manda59
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I think smokeing can help releive the stress.
So, how about keeping a daily log of when you smoke, and why you are smoking at that particular time. That way you will get an idea of how many each day are due to stress and how many (if any) are not.
THEN you can start to think about learning other ways of dealing with stress, and perhaps knock on the head the ones that are just out of habit and not to do with stress.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/30/2009 9:32:06 AM
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Eutychus
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Oh thank you soooo much for them encouragement words!!
I REALLY needed them.
My hubby has been smoke-free since Sept. 8th now. He is so dissapointed in my "failure"
I will just keep TRYING and PRAYING
For me, I had to reach some decisions:
1) I was sick of being a slave to nicotine and decided I had enough (of course, I'd been there many times before but it was the starting point.)
2) I Closed the Door on nicotine. That meant that no matter how bad withdrawal felt, I would do whatever it took to get past each craving. I would do anything but give in to the nicotine slave master.
3) I made no provision for the flesh (But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof. -Romans 13:14). That meant getting rid of every bit of tobacco in my possession and, for me, avoiding the place I usually purchased tobacco. That was a particular convenience store that I actually haven't patronized since I quit in May 2006. It also meant that I avoided the tobacco lane at Wal-Mart for a long time, even when it had the shortest line.
4) I stocked upon as many things I could think of to distract me while craving: tooth picks (I bought a HUGE package from Sam's Club), coffee stir sticks, beef jerky, Altoids, sugar free chewing gum, cotton balls, etc.
5) For the 1st five days (120 hours), I carried a paper where I noted each date/time/total hours I remained nicotine free. By 120 hours, I had managed to go a couple of days past the time that nicotine withdrawal was over (mental withdrawal lasts longer) and the hardest part was accomplished and I KNEW I would not return to my addiction.
6) Each day afterward, I promised that I would not use tobacco for that day. I can't promise forever, only today!
There might be other decisions along the way, but those were important essentials.
Day 1,127 nicotine-FREE
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/30/2009 10:36:29 AM
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Silverstring
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Maybe next time you quit, turn the mental table:
Instead of getting all worked up about the hardships of QUITTING, you give yourself credit for sticking out the hardships of NOT STARTING again.
Subtle difference, but the one is negative, the other is positive.
The one has the focus on the fear of what NOT to do, the other the focus on boosting your confidence in what you are actually successfully DOING. Which is NOT smoking.
As Euty says: "Close the door to nicotine". If you have the thought way back in your mind "I'm going to see how far I can go before caving", then caving remains a real option. If the focus is NEVER SMOKE AGAIN, you will find yourself doing WHATEVER IT TAKES getting through each crave, and you will also notice how things DO get better after a few days. I'm now a year and a half into my quit from smoking 15 - 20 Marlboro Lights a day. Horrible three first days, really bad first week, uneasy first month. After a while it DOES get better. After a while, it's EASY
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/30/2009 10:58:22 AM
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Eutychus
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Maybe next time you quit, turn the mental table:
Instead of getting all worked up about the hardships of QUITTING, you give yourself credit for sticking out the hardships of NOT STARTING again.
I agree. Accentuate the POSITIVE!
I try to think in terms of being FREE from nicotine or just FREEDOM from control and I think of this as a Journey, one that is uphill - a steep one - during the first few days but begins to level off until it becomes normal not to want or think about tobacco at all, except to encourage others considering about or have started this Journey back to Freedom.
Try to imagine this: Being somewhere, anywhere, for a few hours without any urge to have one or needing to have just one. It is a place that you can be. Now do whatever it takes to reach that place... one hour, one crave, one day at a time.
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 9/30/2009 11:31:58 AM
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Eutychus
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...I even watched my mom pass away from COPD 18 months ago. You would think that alone would have made me want to quit!...
One of my granddads died from lung cancer at age 72, but I continued using about 23 years. I watched my favorite, robust, and fun loving uncle slowly die from lung cancer at age 53. Yet, it was another 17 years when I was 54 before I finally started my journey to freedom. Even my dad suffered a major stroke as a result of smoking since a preteen and spent the last 6 years of his life in a nursing home. Yet, it was another year or two after his death before I made my decision. Even though I knew they died as a result of decades of tobacco use, none of them had much to do with my taking the step of faith to get free.
I wish I could understand what motivates us to finally do what it takes to regain our freedom. If I did, I would share it with every smoker I know.
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Today my eldest daughter called (Brandi)..asked if I could watch their three year old little girl...Brandi and her husband are expecting her second baby. She thinks her water just broke. I might be a grandmothere again today. This baby will be me and hubby's sixth grandchild. What a GREAT day to quit! I'll let you know...
GREAT NEWS!! Keep us posted!
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 10/1/2009 4:50:31 AM
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manda59
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I started smokeing when I was 13 years old...I am now 52 years old. What thirteen year old does'ent want to be accepted by a group?
Of course, it's normal teen stuff to want to be part of a group, probably girls more than boys. But plenty don't resort to smoking. I was on my own a lot at school, all the way through high school. So was my ds and also my dd.
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Our family moved alot, and I never stayed in a school long enough to find that true friendship.
I could'ent go to the "smart group" of the "cheerleaders group" or any other group but the "tough rebel group" We all smoked in the school bathrooms. Nobody messed w/ us.
Was being "messed with" a problem for you before that? Were you bullied?
My dd has never been a member of any one group at school (she's 16), and never had a close friend all the way through school, but has tended to look out for the other ones who also don't belong to any groups and hang out with them (which is also what I did at school); she also often spends time on her own, and is quite happy with that. She has also grown into someone who other girls come to for help.
I'm guessing then that confidence, and identity, was an issue for you, and that perhaps for some reason you felt you couldn't talk to your parents about how unhappy you were at school (eg you weren't close, didn't want to worry them etc). You appeared to not just want to fit in, but to need to "fit in", rather than stand out or stand alone, and it may help you to look deeper into that. Needing to fit in often indicates a feeling of powerless, not being in control, and trying to take back control whichever way you can, even if it's a self-destructive way (as, for example, an anorexic does by controlling what they eat to a punishing degree).
It obviously will have made it harder for you as your parents smoked, you will have had less resistance. But I know friends of my daughter's whose parents smoke, and they don't.
Obviously the physical nicotine addiction comes into play as well, but the emotional reasons for smoking will still be there even when the nicotine addiction is broken, which is why it's a good idea IMO to look into those as well, because it will help you to identify your issues and vulnerable areas, and then work out other ways of dealing with those difficult times. Identifying the emotional reasons will make it far easier to stay quit once you have quit, will make relapse far less likely.
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Today my eldest daughter called (Brandi)..asked if I could watch their three year old little girl...Brandi and her husband are expecting her second baby. She thinks her water just broke. I might be a grandmothere again today. This baby will be me and hubby's sixth grandchild. What a GREAT day to quit! I'll let you know...
The prospect of a new grandchild is wonderful, and having your granddaughter around today will presumably prevent you from smoking anyway - so it definitely sounds promising as a great day to quit!
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 10/1/2009 9:07:15 AM
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Silverstring
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The prospect of a new grandchild is wonderful, and having your granddaughter around today will presumably prevent you from smoking anyway - so it definitely sounds promising as a great day to quit!
Think AHEAD of thinking BACK on this day as the day you quit altogether! Hardship today, yes, but a golden glow in all future memories!
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 10/1/2009 10:39:39 AM
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stampinlady
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10 + years of not smoking and it was my best friend. You can do it and it's well worth it!!!!
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I most certainly understand now that God is not one to show partiality .... Acts 10:34
"When the fufillment comes the types and shadows cease."
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RE: Quitting smoking support thread - 10/1/2009 1:08:31 PM
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Bubbles5
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Yes..dad was in the picture..we got to see him every other week-end. But we also lied to him about what was going on at home. Always had to keep secrets from him. So I kept the smokeing from him also.
My home has been smoke-free since hubby quit Sept. 8th(first time in 31 years BTW)
I am also "smoke-free" when hubby gets home at 5PM So I have gone w/o that cigg for about 5 hours during the evening hours...well to be honest..I sometimes make excuses to have to go in the garage or go run an errand...just to sneak a few puffs... it's just during the day that I find it difficult. I have been trying to keep myself busy with cleanning and sewing. Anything to keep the hands busy. I'm doing all the "homework" on quiting..just have to get the mind there.
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