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So she's insecure - 8/18/2008 8:41:20 PM
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lrdl3537
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What makes a women feel insecure ? and what can be done to change that?
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RE: So she's insecure - 8/19/2008 12:48:00 AM
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solo_soprano22
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Low self-esteem and self-worth can make one feel insecure and inadequate.
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RE: So she's insecure - 8/19/2008 7:11:53 AM
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Are you in a committed secure relationship? A woman might feel insecure if she was, in fact, in a relationship that was not committed.
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RE: So she's insecure - 8/19/2008 4:35:35 PM
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There are many reasons a woman may be insecure. I agree with Solo
Low self-esteem and self-worth can make one feel insecure and inadequate.
We experience a variety of situations in our lifetime. What may cause one person to withdraw may cause another person to flourish. What I am saying is that the reasons are individualized, perhaps a bad childhood, distrusting relationships, it could be anything. Talk to her, find out what has occurred in her life and be positive and comforting.
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RE: So she's insecure - 8/19/2008 10:30:23 PM
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solo_soprano22
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Didn't see the second part of the question. I think getting to the root of it would be a good start, and different kinds of insecurities may be caused by different things. For example, if a woman is always called ugly from the time she is small, she may grow up feeling unattractive and feel insecure around women who she perceives attractive. Honestly, sometimes the things women go through in life can have such psychological impacts that therapy may be a good thing. Try to figure out what's REALLY going on.
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RE: So she's insecure - 8/19/2008 11:26:54 PM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: solo_soprano22
Low self-esteem and self-worth can make one feel insecure and inadequate.
Amen.I struggle with this issue.
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RE: So she's insecure - 8/20/2008 6:27:19 AM
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losgan
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I find when I listen to the enemy, or listen to the world ... I feel insecure.
But when I read what and who the BIBLE says I am - I have nothing to worry about.
Being built up in a relationship helps - but it's kinda like putting a bandaid on something that needs stitches.
What makes us afraid is pain. At some point, someone who is insecure was hurt by a person, situation, etc. But if you let God be your strength and your protector (and avoid the places He says not to go) ... you may still get hurt, but ultimately you are depending on God, who will not let you down. He may not give you what you want, but He won't let you down.
Easier said than done I know. It's a day-by-day, sometimes a moment-by-moment struggle.
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RE: So she's insecure - 8/20/2008 8:24:52 AM
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too many real or percieved failures can cause insecurity.
just a few real successes can start to turn that around.
sounds simple, doesn't it. Applying it is another story.
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RE: So she's insecure - 8/20/2008 10:29:49 AM
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Not trusting that God loves her just the way she is can make a woman feel insecure. If you can help her see that being beautiful in God's eyes is what really counts, she will most likely lose some of her insecurities because she can now stand tall in Christ.
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RE: So she's insecure - 8/30/2008 5:35:47 PM
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Being burned in past relationships. I have been burned in my last few and I will tell you it makes me feel insecure! I have lost trust of the opposite sex.
Past experiences may be a big factor to consider.
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RE: So she's insecure - 9/18/2008 9:47:30 AM
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I personally have struggled with self-esteem issues since I was about 16 yrs old. I had a huge crush on an MK (missionary's kid) who was several yrs older than me. He took advantage of my extreme admiration and attraction. I felt so loved. And then he moved on to my best friend and ridiculed me for thinking I was anything more than the "next in line". I was raised in a Christian home, became a believer at a young age, and I was actually very self-righteous... and I thought I knew this guy. When I was so fooled, I lost confidence in myself (which would have been a good time to put my confidence in Christ, where it belonged).
Even though I transferred my confidence from me to Christ years ago, the inner struggle is never completely gone. It doesn't help that I am of average build, and that there is so much "above average" skin, ETC., on parade anymore. Women have a competitive streak, even when they aren't "in the running" physically. Guys appreciate beautiful women. Every woman wants to feel beautiful. This woman wants to feel that I am the most beautiful in my guy's eyes.
My husband is very loving, attentive, and complimentary. He tells me how beautiful I am every day. The insecurities are not easily beaten, though. A glance from him to a beautiful woman would make me feel that I'm not "measuring up". It's a deep-seated problem that can evidently be soothed, but not cured, at least not by man. Only God can heal... and just like in other cases, I humbly lay this at the cross -- with a string attached, so that it follows me home.
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RE: So she's insecure - 9/27/2008 7:42:20 PM
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It's hard. Insecurity tried to rule over me when I was very young. Being different (race, background, family history) to those around me, some people were curious...others rejected me. The amazing thing is, that now that I have the chance to go over my past and forgive those who appeared to reject me, I have the impression that it wasn't as bad as I thought...and I probably was very sensitive at the time. I'm still working on that...but I believe that I will come out of this changed!
One thing I do know is that I have felt insecure because I had put on much weight and also was of a different race to others around me...they made me feel inferior by the way they treated me based on those factors ALONE!
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RE: So she's insecure - 9/30/2008 7:58:59 AM
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I have a situation right now at work that is making me feel very inadequate... and I'm at a point in my life where I don't have a lot of insecurities! I don't know why it does this with women, but it's impacting every area of my life -- just to give you a perspective. For a short time, I suddenly feel insecure in every aspect of life, just like captainfreulein said.
What can you do? Know that you cannot take her insecurities away completely. Let her talk, even if it's not about the situation she's concerned about. Offer a safe environment for her to just be herself. Know that her insecurities are between herself and God and that there are a lot of things going on in her world outside of your relationship.
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RE: So she's insecure - 10/4/2008 5:14:15 PM
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Try to let her be who she is without being quick to judge her. Do not critique her for awhile...and throw away any preconceived ideas of who she is meant to be...instead try to figure out who she really is.
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