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ORIGINAL: ps66.16

I appreciate everyone's kind and helpful words. Too many of my friends in the military lost wives due to deployment, and that's just sick. I have second job as a fugitive enforcement agent, and there's times were out on stakeout or working a case long hours. Not even close to deployment, but ironically I found numerous of my fellow agents running into the same situation.

In Arizona, the spouse whose income is lower at the time of separation is automatically entitled to "alimony" if the marriage lasted more than 10 years. In this case, we passed 10 years 2 months before she left. Ironic, eh? Regardless, she's entitled to that, plus physical custody because unless there is documented evidence (court cases) of physical, alcohol or drug abuse by either party. Unless there's an overwhelming case against her not having the kids, the fact she left me means nothing in court. I learned that the hard way.

Doing a little better now, been praying harder, focusing my strength on my weakness and the fact that His grace is sufficient, and His love made perfect in weakness. I've spent so many years encouraging others with words such as these, using passages from Psalms, Romans and Hebrews, and now I'm the one who needs guidance...more irony. If anyone knows of a men's group in the central Arizona area please let me know. We have one at our church, but it's more structured and focused on bible study only, with specific materials and a schedule. It's not an open forum or discussion of any kind. The closest city from me is 30 minutes away, so there's not too many options out here.

Thanks again, have my Resolution Conference on the 1st, if anything changes I'll post it here, but in the meantime I just want this miserable part of my life to be over so I can move on and try to pull myself back together. I never believed in divorce, swore against it and felt it wasn't an option in my life. Boy was I mistaken!