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How Much Information? - 10/27/2009 11:37:40 PM
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Memaw.
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How much information do you tell your children regarding potentially dangerous people or happenings in your neighborhood?
If they are old enough to really understand "stranger danger", would letting them know there is a real danger in your area be the wise thing to do or would it cause unnecessary worry for them?
Should we say anything at all to them?
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 7:40:14 AM
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My kids are 8 (9 in December), 10, 11 (12 in 2 weeks) and almost 16.
And yes I do think it's important to inform them of potentially dangerous people in a manner that puts it out as information THEY need to be safe.
For example if there were a known danger living in our really small town I would tell them to NOT hang out in that area and to be aware of things around them and their friends when they are out and about like at the park or walking between home and friends homes. I very likely wouldn't give details to the youngest, she is just not old enough not to worry when there are too many gory details. But it would be UNWISE for me NOT to tell all of my kids of a known danger in our neighborhood as they play outside and do walk to friends homes, church and the park all the time.
I guess I would only give them the necessary information depending upon age and ability to understand. IF my kids are old enough to be allowed to venture out in the neighborhood on their own then they are certainly old enough to handle information on dangers that they might come in contact with.
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 1:05:41 PM
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what garsy said
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 1:31:51 PM
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I guess I would only give them the necessary information depending upon age and ability to understand. IF my kids are old enough to be allowed to venture out in the neighborhood on their own then they are certainly old enough to handle information on dangers that they might come in contact with.
This is ok with me.
We had some odd things happen on a school bus some years ago in regards to a particular bus driver and had to tell the kids to watch out for certain things. The man was a little odd, supposedly a believer and there were some nasty rumors going around about him. I prayed for him and after awhile he was let go. I never knew what happened, but God did. I do think that we need to be very very careful with what comes out of our mouths as well as what goes in.
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 1:45:28 PM
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My kids have watched the Stranger Safety DVD we have a number of times, and we've done the 'pause and discuss' parts of the DVD. We usually refresh that DVD before we go someplace that will be new and/or crowded. I love that DVD because it really emphasizes that a bad person looks just like everyone else. It does a great job of pointing out to kids the dangers that are out there but in a way that doesn't scare them silly.
My kids also take karate and so have learned a lot of self-defense stuff there. My kids know which neighbors we trust and which we don't [and they know it's not because they are necessarily bad people; they are just people we don't know or don't know well].
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 2:38:07 PM
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http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/10/21/georgia.landfill.body/index.html
Since this girl was taken close to Grandpaw's house and dumped in Georgia, our home state, it's all over the news and papers. We have talked about stranger danger, and continue to on a regular basis. When I see a situation I'm concerned with, I'll call them close and they obey because of previous discussions. When clear of any potential situation, we'll talk about what just happened and why I was concerned.
If you try to shelter them from any and all explanations on "stranger danger", then you leave them completely unarmed to handle, recognize, or comprehend danger. Same for sex and drugs... if you do NOT talk about it, it's akin to condoning the behavior.
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 4:50:11 PM
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I hope this is a continuation of the OP and not a bunny trail but what about the danger that is not stranger danger? The fact is, if something bad happens to your child is far more likely to be purportrated by someone they know rather than a stranger. How do you prepare them for that? How do you talk to them about the danger that could come from a friend or relative that you yourself have no inclination could hurt them. My dd is 2 and these talks need to start happening in the relatively near future. I am interested how you handle this.
Karen
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 5:05:59 PM
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I raised my children to be aware of everyone around them and how to keep themselves safe.
I worry about children who are taught only about "stranger danger" because statistically they're more at risk from people they know than people they don't.
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 5:17:27 PM
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ORIGINAL: SurpassingPeace
I hope this is a continuation of the OP and not a bunny trail but what about the danger that is not stranger danger? The fact is, if something bad happens to your child is far more likely to be purportrated by someone they know rather than a stranger. How do you prepare them for that? How do you talk to them about the danger that could come from a friend or relative that you yourself have no inclination could hurt them. My dd is 2 and these talks need to start happening in the relatively near future. I am interested how you handle this.
Karen
We already talk to DD about it, and have been for about 6 months. Every time I change her diaper we talk about how "we don't let anyone touch our privates, not even a doctor, unless mommy is there and says it's ok". I try and keep it simple right now, but as she gets older we will definitely tlak more in depth. We are in a unique situation though, in that we already know there is a relative who is a child molester(and a child himself at only 13).
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 5:41:16 PM
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Oh Ryanne, that is scary. But at least you know. I think most families harbor something of the kind whether they know it or not. That is a good idea what you are doing.
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I worry about children who are taught only about "stranger danger" because statistically they're more at risk from people they know than people they don't.
See, this is what I am thinking. I have been reading Lenore Skenazy's book "Free Range Kids". It has prompted me to do research on what is truly or more likely a danger to our children. It really blows my mind how much I thought was true wasn't. For example, that children are far, far more likely to be harmed by someone they know than a stranger. It has definately made me to rethink alot of things.
Karen
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 5:48:48 PM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: SurpassingPeace
I hope this is a continuation of the OP and not a bunny trail but what about the danger that is not stranger danger? The fact is, if something bad happens to your child is far more likely to be purportrated by someone they know rather than a stranger. How do you prepare them for that? How do you talk to them about the danger that could come from a friend or relative that you yourself have no inclination could hurt them. My dd is 2 and these talks need to start happening in the relatively near future. I am interested how you handle this.
Karen
That was another thing I really liked about the Stranger Safety DVD. They address family friends. In one little drama, a boy's dad has his friends over to watch a game upstairs. One of the men lingers after the others go upstairs and approaches the boy to tell him he has something out in his car that he thinks the boy might like but not to tell his parents; he tells him it's a secret. The narrator stops the drama and warns kids that no adult should EVER tell you to go somewhere without telling your parents first and that you shouldn't go with anyone unless your parents have specifically said you could. They then go on to have a whole section on 'safe side adults' that your parents make for the child. Basically, you pick 3 adults you consider 'safe.' If any adult, even one your family knows, tries to get you to go somewhere and they aren't on the safe side list, you don't go. It doesn't matter if you know them or not.
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RE: How Much Information? - 10/28/2009 5:49:38 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Another good one is "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin DeBecker.
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RE: How Much Information? - 11/2/2009 7:51:17 AM
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We never really taught "stranger danger"...for one thing...to a child...a stranger is, in their mind, someone scary and monster like. We just taught them about appropriate touch and that if ANY ONE made them uncomfortable or feel scared in any way..they were to tell mommy and daddy right away, no matter what the other person said...no matter WHO the other person was.
We also told them that NO one would ever pick them up from school, etc without us having told them first, unless they knew the family password. (which only our children, ourselves, our pastor and one other trusted family friend knew)...
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