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Big Boys Don't Cry
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| Yes, it is ok for men to cry whether in public or privately |
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| ok, but not in public |
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| they should only cry when nobody sees them at all |
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| Men should never cry. |
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Big Boys Don't Cry - 8/16/2008 11:47:44 AM
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humbleinspirit
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Should men whether in public or privately? Do you think less of a man if he does cry?
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 8/17/2008 10:16:23 PM
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PrincessButtercup
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I guess it depends on whether or not it's cry worthy.
That's the same thing I was thinking when I first read the options.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 8/17/2008 10:21:03 PM
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I agree that if it's cryworthy it's OK.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 8/18/2008 3:11:25 PM
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m'love teases me when I cry at movies...but then again, I've gotten back at him during the rare flick that strikes the sentimental switch. Yeah, there are times that call for crying. To hold it in all the time does noone any good.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 8/18/2008 9:22:43 PM
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I guess it depends on whether or not it's cry worthy.
Agreed.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 8/19/2008 11:01:49 AM
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fluffmonkey
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I don't like your options.
I guess it depends on whether or not it's cry worthy.
He just found out his father died? I'd think he's weird if he didn't cry.
They're out of the flavor of ice cream he wants? Definitely not going out with that one.
Crying has it's place and appropriateness. I think it's sweet when men cry a little at their weddings, etc.
I agree with song and everyone else if its something worthy of crying about I see nothing wrong with that! although if some thing is childish and imature...and of selfish nature... then I do.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 8/19/2008 4:30:10 PM
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When I went to see Lord of the Rings 3, some guy sat next to me and he talked the entire time. His girlfriend hadn't seen the first two so he was catching her up for most of the movie. At the end (which is really sad) he finally stopped talking. I looked over at him and it was only because he was crying like a baby. I found THAT situation funny.
Hahahahhahahahahhaahahhahahaha!!!!!
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 8/20/2008 3:54:06 PM
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I'm not sure, but essentially what most everyone has already said. I've never seen my dad cry at all, and I think that is the reason why if any guy cries, it makes me very uncomfortable, just because I'm not used to it. It also may indirectally relate to the fact that I hate crying in front of other people myself...but that's a different topic.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 8/28/2008 9:35:45 PM
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Lufia
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My husband cry when he talks about Jesus ( not all the time but oftenly). It shows me he has a good heart.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 8/30/2008 10:15:04 AM
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humbleinspirit
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I guess it depends on whether or not it's cry worthy.
That's the same thing I was thinking when I first read the options.
When I say crying, I am talking about general things that one would cry about. Not being super sensitive because he couldn't get his favorite drink or something, but rather being at the movie theater and getting teary eyed at a sad scene in the movie instead.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 9/6/2008 3:33:51 PM
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WhiteRoseBlessings
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Mike, crying is not a woman's only thing. 
It's a human emotion; and both men and women are human.
Somewhat the opposite of "Big boys bon't cry" is to say that "Big girls don't get angry" . . . both are untrue.
Emotions are not gender-specific.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 9/8/2008 9:56:13 PM
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MC4JC
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Not "emotional" crying like a woman would, but genuine tears if something is sad or "hits home". I don't think my husband really cried till he and I were together. There was certain things he held back on from his past but once he could trust me, he let his emotional side out.
I think its wonderful to see a grown man cry (many of our church members are not afraid of showing emotions sometimes). Takes a REAL man to be secure enough to show emotions.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 9/9/2008 12:19:28 PM
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It depends on the situation, but I think it's fine for guys to cry in public. I mean not "emotional wreck" crying like we girls sometimes do, but when he's feeling strong emotion he should cry.
The other day one of my guy friends who is on the worship team got really touched by the song we were singing and began to cry, not like loud, noisy crying, but the tears really started just rolling down his face. It made me have even more respect for him than I did before, because it showed me he has a very powerful relationship with Jesus and is not afraid to show it. And some of my guy friends will start crying when they are praying with the kids we are leaders over in youth group. As long as it's showing how deep and in tune he is with his feelings, spiritually and mentally, I personally kind of like a guy who isn't scared to cry, even when others are watching.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 9/9/2008 3:38:00 PM
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I really don't like either extreme in men OR women (never cry under any circumstances OR cry over anything and everything).
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 9/12/2008 6:56:36 AM
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humbleinspirit
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The whole 9/11 rememberance thing brings tears to my eyes.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 9/21/2008 7:34:36 AM
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My Dad have always told me REAL MEN cry. And it should not be a big deal when they do....
After all Jeesus cried. I cry when I think about my Dad I miss him so much.He whet to be with the Lord in 1985 and my Mom in 1998 I was 19 in 1985.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 9/21/2008 12:28:47 PM
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I actually feel relieved if m'love is crying at the end of a movie... I feel less silly as I go searching for a tissue.
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RE: Big Boys Don't Cry - 10/4/2008 5:43:26 AM
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The one thing that drives me bonkers about my fiancé is that he does NOT cry. Ever. Not even after losing both of his grandmothers within six months of each other, and one of them had partially raised him and had saved his childhood from being COMPLETELY miserable. I just don't understand a stoic personality. To me, if you don't cry, you must not be feeling anything. I'm learning to adjust that thought, but it's pretty difficult for me. I'd always said I wouldn't marry a man who thinks he's too macho to cry. But it's not that he thinks he's too macho. He doesn't go around saying men should never cry, or putting down those who do. It's that he's just never at that point.
This said, I've had relationships with men who cry more often than I do. I don't know how I feel about that. I guess it depends on certain things. Like the reason, for one thing, but also the behavior accompanying. If it's a hymn in church that starts tears rolling down his face--I think that's great. But there was one in my past who had absolutely NO control. Public or private, not merely tears but sobbing and squalling. Turning heads. Creating a scene. That, I couldn't respect.
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